HELP!
I'm in my early 20's and I have never had a real friend in my entire life. I'm talking about those very people who you can speak to about ANYTHING, and call up anytime to hang out. My entire social network consists of superficial "buddies" (notice I did not use the word "Friend") and "dead-end" acquaintences. Allow me to present the following definitions:
ACQUAINTENCE-------a person you "know" merely from exposure alone; no real conversations; all salutations and brief small talk; potential to be a FRIEND if handled in a timely manner; becomes a useless entity in your social network if there is no potential
BUDDY---------- somebody you spend time with at a rather shallow level; all small talk, no deep and meaningful subjects of conversation; a short-term solution for loneliness; does not improve your social network; a buddy is to you as "drinking solving problems"
FRIEND------ somebody who genuinely cares about you; relationship based on mutual care and respect; can speak to about anything; socialize with on a
frequent basis; potential for social network expansion by personal introductions
(LONG-DISTANCE FRIEND----let's ignore this category; sure you both care about each other, but if you can't hang out with them what good are they for?)
Now that you know what I mean by "friend", let me make it clear that I'm not some internet "weirdo" or "geek". I have always treated others the same way I expect to be treated. I have self-confidence and I am not shy. If I would like to meet somebody, I will take initiative and do whatever it takes to meet them.
BUT here's my problem: WHERE AND HOW DO I MEET NEW PEOPLE?
I am 22 years old, and I am starting from scratch. I have NO social network to work with. In order to meet new friends, I must already have an established entourage of friends. It's a vicious cycle right?
How do I get the wheels turning? I can't just walk up to a random stranger, and say "would you like to be my friend?" And let's be realistic here. We can't just meet people online either. How would you like explaining to people that you "met so-and-so from blablabla.com"?
Please help! I'm lonely and the opportunities to meet new people are dwindling