okay im going to cut to the point im 18 years old and gay probably not important but if helps and i have had alot of intrusive thoughts but this one i dont know scares me i feel like im going to be or tun into a paedophile which makes no sense i mean i have never been attracted to kids at all but im scared it will start or something will develope and i will turn of guys or i will stop liking them and switch and i feel like all these thoughts will do that to me
First of all, you don't need to be under any categorization as part of a general rule.
For example, a dude was asked why he was gay, and he responded, "because he had bad luck with women". Only available way to have sex was other men's butts. He was never attracted to men, he likes women.
In order to overcome ideas of becoming a pedophile, you must find the practical way, something to be your rule for life.
Let me give you another example.
You watch the movie Scarface.
This dude Tony Montana (performed by Al Pacino) is a criminal of the worst. He has no mercy when is about to kill somebody whom he considers his enemy.
A dude over him in drug mafia level, asked him to eliminate a person who will show the pictures of several guys involved in drug business. The gangster agreed to the killing.
A bomb was put under the car of the target, and the explosion was supposed to happen in front of the building where this guy will make his presentation.
Don't stop reading, keep following the story.
It happens that the guy picked up his wife and children as well, so the target wasn't him alone anymore but now will be extent to his family as well.
Tony Montana started to think about the new scenario. He felt OK about killing the other guy, but killing the other guy's children was a different story.
Tony Montana felt the pressure of a mafia guy who was sent to him for monitoring his actions for the murdering.
Tony Montana refused to kill the guy and his wife and children and killed the other mafia dude instead.
Now, here is the expression of Tony Montana when he was in complete disagreement in killing those children who were in the targeted car
"I don't need this sh*t in my life".
A murderer, a drug trafficker, a bad guy in several aspects, but not a child killer.
You can imitate Tony Montana and overcome those thoughts which are bothering you.
Think about those children, they don't deserve to be hurt by you. You are free to have sex with men, women, older women, older men, whoever, but children must not be your desired sex partners neither now neither later in life.
I guess that every time such kind of thoughts come to your mind, you just be strong and say to yourself, "no, I don't need this sh*t in my life".
Then, do something else to distract yourself from those thoughts.
Probably will work for you.