Wife has suggested a threesome

Mike--

Welcome to A2K.

If the idea of a threesome as a fact rather than as a fantasy makes you personally uncomfortable, don't do it.

You sign yourself "husband and father".

Uncommitted singles can pick and choose sexual behavior. Parents are much more limited.

Kids are more important than fantasies.

It has its difficulties. I don't like to multi task, so it is hard for me to concentrate on more than one thing at a time.

From "Dr. Drew's" site. I've found his sexuality-related stuff to be pretty good, even if I'm not impressed with his psychobabble on that cable channel devoted to the legal system.



This was not a married couple, of course. I would recommend against the threesome.

I wouldn't even think twice about it... I wouldn't do it in a million years. The thought of my wife being with somebody else makes me very very unhappy... I couldn't imagine having to share her.

Mike, I think you would be opening a Pandora's box (god, I hope your wife's name isn't Pandora) on this matter. I strongly suggest you try to dissuade your wife from pursuing this matter any farther.

If she insists on following through though, however, my services are always available.

I am a kind and gentle lover.

Now that's one way to nip it in the bud: "We can have a threesome, but only if it's you, me, and GUS! ...and his ostrich, of course."

The ostrich would make it a foursome.

Let's take this one step at a time.

Sorry, I didn't mean to peck a fight.

A three some, IMO, is absolutely disgusting...

A lot of men think I'm crazy, but girl / girl action does not turn me on...

So, a Threesome absolutely a 'no'

However, for you, I would say NO simply because it can damage the relationship and if you're a parent that is the last thing you need.

You may as well do it. Obviously she is interested and you don't want her doing behind your back. Better to be open and up front about it rather than finding out about it later.

Don't do it! She may be just 'testing' you....have you considered that! :wink:

That's like telling your child, "Well, you might as well smoke or drink in front of me... because I don't want you doing it behind my back."


Do you know how absurd that is??? If my child ever smoke or drank in front of me, I'd beat them to a bloody pulp... (ok... well... just severely give them rug burns)

BUT, going along with something just because they show interest and you're too afraid to say no is not healthy.

Mike

Your wife seems way out of line here, does she not have any boundaries? Fantasies invloving multiple partners in a marriage should remain fantasies.

Mike, it's o.k. to say NO to a spouse, your her husband not her love slave.

A threesome in a marriage situation has TRAINWRECK written all over it.

No, no, and no.

When in Holland, always be the first one to eat the banana.

Did I really say "no?" hmmmmm...

I thought you were saying no to paulas objections about it

Mike, I honestly don't think your wife is testing you. You know why? Because if she testing you, she should suggest a threesome with another girl, where you can have 2 girls, in that way she can test you cause am sure there are guys cannot reject threesome with two girls. But in your case, she suggest a threesome with another man, I don't see any man in this world got turn on by that idea unless they Gay. So am sure she not testing you.
I honestly I think any wife shouldn't be asking their husband for threesome with another man, isn't a wife suppose to be faithful to their husband. I don't knwo why she suggest it with you but if I were you, I say No. If two person love each other, I don't think they can see one another in bed with another person. Your wife should not suggest it in the first place, I think you should sit down and ask her what she wants? And what make her want another man.

If she wants a threesome get her a set of golf clubs and a country club membership for Christmas.