How about a number 3 choice: another girl all together.
Both these girls sound like they have issues. You really want to saddle yourself with one?
Date lots of girls. The cream will rise to the top.
Yours is the best advice, however, one day, by chance, I had the opportunity of having three girlfriends at the same time. Two of them with a child, and the another one alone by herself.
Sleeping in three different beds was an adventure, but the main problem started after a while when my bank account was as low as bankruptcy.
Sadly, I had to let go two of them and catch up with my finances.
In my life, when relationships became very complicated, I opted for starting anew somewhere.
There are things which can be tolerated and you can live with it, but sometimes the problems the partners carry are "incurable" and if you don't leave you might end by being contaminated.
If you decide to continue with those relationships, it is better to keep one of them only, because it has been experienced already by you Mockingbird777 that two women with complications is too much.