Do I tell wife about sex tape I found of her?

No and no. The video has nothing to do with you. Delete it and forget it.

I agree that the answer to both questions is no.

As for the video, it is my belief that anyone making a home video (knowingly, lol) will tend to "overact" for the camera. So it may have looked like she enjoyed it, but one never really knows. I wouldn't sweat it. She is with you now, so you must be doing something right.

no and no to your questions

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the question you might ask yourself is why you watched when you found it. don't tell me/us. think about it for yourself.

(I'd have just destroyed it on realizing what it was - my partner's past isn't my business - unless it could cause legal/health problems for me)

Listen, as someone who's endowed with a bit of a baby carrot (lol), you have to accept that unless you want to endure a painful and potentially dangerous surgery, you're not getting any bigger.

And contrary to other answers here, it's ok that you followed your curiosity and watched it. The question is what do you do now?

I would say brush it off, and just be attentive to your wife sexually. I've had they best sexual partnerships when there is open and honest communication about likes and dislikes. And I mean radical communication. Like even during the throes of it, ask her what feels good and what you could do better. She may be shy at first, but that kind of genuine curiosity and communication will do wonders for your sex life.

Good luck

radical?

this should be the standard and certainly has been in my experience over the years

Agreed, but many people are shy in this area. I say radical to jar the reader into understanding that no communications should be off limits here. So in that respect were in vehement agreement.