@centrox,
I'm straight and now quite the old woman. My first love, wonderful guy, was just turning nineteen when we met; I was well into being 21. No problem.
My husband, years and years later, was 11 1/2 years younger than I was. That was a problem a quarter century later on, but not a big deal until much closer to the end-days.
I guess I was a Cougar, in my day.