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Sun 5 Dec, 2004 11:15 am
My girlfriend has a very tight knit group of girls shes been friends with for almost her whole life. I have been with her intimately for about 6 months know but have known her for 4 years. I have never been that close with her friends but hang out with them on occasion with my gf. Only during the past 2 months have i had issues with them. They have no sense of privacy and nothing me and my gf do is alone anymore, they are always around. Also they are very spiteful and cruel to anyone outside of their group which includes me so anything i do or say is wrong. Its only a matter of time before they go to my gf and complain about me. Im worried its gonna screw up my relationship with my gf because its gonna put her in a hard situation. My gf knows i dont always like being around them and she doesnt get too upset about it, but its almost at the point where we have to be around every1 to see eachother or else i dont see her. What do i do??
Sit down and have a serious talk with your girlfriend about this. This is between the 2 of you and only the 2 of you. Obviously this is a problem for you and you need to find out if it's a problem for her as well. If it is, then she's going to have to have a talk with her friends about giving you both some time alone. If this isn't a problem for her, then you'll either have to accept that or move on.
Good luck to you both.
even if she talks with them...trust me i wont win that battle, i doubt shed even do that anyway
Then it sounds like you're out of luck. She is the only one who can solve this problem and if she doesn't do anything about it, then you're up the creek without a paddle.
Sorry I can't give you any other advice.
I once dated a guy who I would basically only see when I was with my friends. The reason was that I didn't like him, but didn't want to "hurt" him so I just dragged him around with me and my friends....( I know, very selfish....I was young)
Not that that's what she's doing, just another thing to think about.....it happens all the time.
Who sets it up so that things are always done with her friends? Is she telling them your plans?
It does sound like StandupforP's scenario is a possibility.
what happens is they are always having get togethers and i think she feels that she needs to go because every1 will be there except for us and its rude but ya i think stand up does have a point
stand up...how do i make sure thats not happening
EMSFD125 - what happens if you try to arrange a date for just the two of you?
if like we tell eachother that no matter what goes on we will go out, then we usually do but its like i gotta make an appointment i mean she usually talks to me and i guess im the one that really gives in cause i feel bad if shes not with everyone
Hmmm....Usually, if my ex and I went out by ourselves, "conveniently" my friends would show up.
no that never happens, if its me and her its just me and her and she wouldnt do that if they came
Well, if she would rather spend more time with her friends, even if you are around, then she probably isn't that interested.....or for a better word, serious.
Is it not possible to befriend her friends? You may have to.... and it would sure help.
First of all, is she really worth it?
o definatly, ive contemplated marriage with this girl
You've contemplated marriage to this girl who only likes to spend time with you if her friends are around? Do you think she's contemplated marriage?
somewhere along the line in this post, my problem was lost....my problem isnt with my gf its with her friends...my gf and i love spending time with eachother, its that her friends dont give us as much time alone as we both want
If she didn't want them to be around, she would tell them other wise. Close knit or not, chances are she'd tell them. Maybe you should talk to her about your issue, she'd be the one with all the answers, there's no harm in asking!
no, ok let me clear this up...they dont randomly show up places when we are together...they are constantly having parties and putting both of us in positions where we basically feel like we need to go. And this is often, but when we are alone we are 100% alone, but its just not as often as we are with everyone else
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