Thu 27 Jul, 2017 02:34 pm
My ex was the love of my life. I know he was, no one has ever compared. We parted on good terms, we spilt because of circumstances not because we didn’t get on or love each other anymore.
Despite this, I have tried to move on with my life and have learned to love again. I've been married for years and have two children.
However, 12 years on he still slips into my thoughts and I dream about him regularly. I dream he comes backs for me, wants me back and I have a tough decision to make.
I'm trying to get it out of my head but I can't control my dreams. Please tell me this goes away eventually!?
I don't think these dreams are about your ex at all. Yes, he is in them, but I suspect they are more like stress/anxiety dreams and/or wish fulfillment dreams. Anxiety because if you go back to him (subconsciously), you could lose your family and the life you have built, not to mention regress in your development as a person. Wish fulfillment because life isn't all sunshine and roses so it's a convenient escape from yet another mortgage payment or kid needing new shoes or whatever.
Nostalgia is a powerful drug. But that's all it is.