@becurse,
Keh,
- you steal a girl from your friend...can you see the red flag here?
- she wanted to make him (the ex) pay...can you see the red flag here?
- she was doing it with you because he was doing it with another girl...can you see the red flag here?
- she complains about how badly he treated her, but still stayed with him...can you see the red flag here?
- having treated her badly, she still keeps in touch with him...can you see the red flag here?
- she complains of mixed feelings but won't tell you what they are...can you see the red flag here?
Take a step back from what 'you want' and look at it for what it is.