@layman,
Harvard Physics Professor David Morin wrote:One might view the statement, “A sees B’s clock running slow, and also B sees A’s clock running slow,” as somewhat unsettling. But in fact, it would be a complete disaster for the theory if A and B viewed each other in different ways.
Note, it is always the "moving" clock (i.e., the "other guy's" clock in SR) which runs slow.
The guy on the train must say HE is stationary, so YOUR clock is running slow.
The guy on the ground must say HE is stationary, so YOUR (the guy on the train) clock is running slow.
If the guy on the train ever said: "Ya know what, ground-guy? I think you're right. I think I'm the one moving, so I guess it is my clock running slow, not yours," then that would be a "COMPLETE DISASTER" for the theory of special relativity.
SR REQUIRES (at least) one of them to make a false claim for the theory to work. Homey don't play dat.
A passenger on a train cannot properly ask the conductor if the train stops in Chicago. The train isn't moving, if you're a relativist.
The proper question for a relativist could only be "Does Chicago stop here?"