Respect
Respect each others space, time, thoughts, desires. Always respect what the other person does for you. Always respect the fact that you are NOT the same people ( Kristie always takes the good comments hahah )
Respect thier thoughts .. as they are diffrent from yours and come from an entirely diffrent life and diffrent experiences.
Respect thier time. As thier time is a gift to you that you can not measure.
Be lovers first
Remember, this person is your lover. They see you in the most intimate parts ofyour life. Treat them as such. The most important person in your relationship is the person you share it with. Not you. With out them there IS no relationship... it is just you.
Friendship
Start out as friends. Remember later on that this person is your best friend TOO , along with being a lover. Friends laugh, love and accept the other person 100%.
Love is an action
I believe love is an action. It isnt the feeling you get when you see someone, it is the work you do to GET that feeling. If love is thought of as an action, people would do it more and stop expecting it. Love is something you do for a person. Love is a gift, a card, sex, hugs, talks, fights, all those ACTIONS create the feeling you get when you see someone. The feelings of content, excitement, happiness etc.. all come from acts of Love.
My biggest suggestion and my number one rule for myself
Remove the words Seperation and Divorce from your vocabulary when you decide to marry. Thinking that relationships with people and other peoples time and emotions are disposable is the one thing that will tear down any kind of relationship. When you remove the idea that " i can leave if this doesnt work" you put 100% of yourself into a relationship and WORK on keeping it that way. You find ways to work things out. You find middle ground on issues . You love more, you relax, and you enjoy each others time.
> That is all for my session of Sesame Street <