willow, that is awesome to know. I might have to come here if I have questions. The plan was:
1st child: my belly
2nd and/or 3rd: 100% no if's or anything, we adopt (something we feel strongly about)
I have not gone to the doctors to see if I can even have a baby after some of the things I've gone through, so child #1 may come from the belly of someone else.
What's great is, it's my fiance who is so gung-ho about adopting. He's been so supportive of my health problems and would RATHER not even try to have one ourselves. It's me who would like to experience it. We're certain though that if we adopted, the second we saw him or her (we don't care) ...it'll be the same connection. We say this because this is honestly what we've always heard. Even at church, the organization they have of parents who have adopted (who help others adopt) say they connected instantly.