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Am I overthinking it?

 
 
Reply Mon 19 Jun, 2017 12:20 pm
Heads up this question is kinda long, but I'm going to to shorten it as much as possible. My ex boyfriend and I were together for five years before he came out of the blue saying that he wanted to breakup mid February. Our relationship was great at first, but we started having issues with him not communicating with me as much, talking very negatively to me, jumping from job to job, and almost ignoring me.(I know I should have left, but I love him. We have all been a fool right?) I purchased a electronic item via a rental company with my ex under the assumption he would be going half with me on it needless to say that didn't happen and I was paying all of it even though after I graduated last may and moved back home I had no stable employment and he was working full time , but did not offer to pay. The next issue is the phone bill that we share. After the breakup I had already been unemployed almost 6 months due to not being able to find any job he said that he had no problem paying it. I asked him several time through the months. I even thanked him for paying it acknowledging that was something he did not have to do. He then start paying my netflix that we were sharing as well. Fast forward to now I told him I was moving because I had found a job and now he doesnt want to give me my electronic, he now says he wants to pay for that too, and threw it in my face that he paid for my phone,and netflix. when I finally told him he could have the tv as long as he paid it he also told me he was moving to the same state, but two hours away. Am I overthinking all of this? Am I wrong for thinking something is up with all of this?
 
PUNKEY
 
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Reply Mon 19 Jun, 2017 01:23 pm
@peakingdawn,
Its quite clear: breakup is happening.

Insist that you get back things you brought to the relationship unless he will pay for it, like the TV. Take your name off all accounts. Give him back anything he is paying for. Dont entangle yourself in any financial dealings with him.

This is a split and thats why its named that.
peakingdawn
 
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Reply Mon 19 Jun, 2017 01:42 pm
@PUNKEY,
I'm completely fine with the breakup and have been for months. I plan on splitting the account in a month once I get enough money to be able to do it. I'm fine with him having the electronic device if he pays for it. I feel like he behaving so oddly to say we have broken up. Plus the cellphone account is in my name and so is the tv.
ehBeth
 
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Reply Mon 19 Jun, 2017 04:21 pm
@peakingdawn,
Find a way to repay him the monies you owe him (and yes you owe him for your phone bill).

Make sure there are no financial accounts that you have both names on. Separate the financials and keep them that way.

Move on to your new job and end the contact. The relationship is over then a few messy financial threads that you need to untangle.
peakingdawn
 
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Reply Mon 19 Jun, 2017 05:05 pm
@ehBeth,
I have offered to pay him back when I'm employed and he declined. I am trying to do the right thing, but he declines every time I do.
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Mon 19 Jun, 2017 07:05 pm
Then let him have the TV and call it even.

But get him off your phone bill.

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D45ist
 
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Reply Mon 19 Jun, 2017 09:17 pm
@peakingdawn,
Life lesson; if anything in your life is a long story with lots of details, WALK AWAY.

Long stories and lots of details we use to justify doing things that are wrong for us.
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