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Fri 2 Jun, 2017 05:09 pm
I'm a mid-20s male who is not sure what I think of a sex with other men. I have had desires to wear panties and have fulfilled those desires. I also have had the desire and fantasy of pleasuring a man with and without the involvement of the panties on. Panties on is more exciting to me. My desires are to be a pleasurer of a man in the ways that he wants especially orally. I want to be wearing cute panties for him and to please him. I would gladly take it laying down as well. I see porn where the girl or guy it's giving oral sex to a man and I want to be that person. I want to have him come to climax in my mouth with enthusiasm. I have a concern though. A few actually.
One of them is: do I want this because of the porn that I watch? I frequent a site that has a lot of images and short videos that really romanticize the act and encourage the behavior. I think it may be possible that my multiple exposures have influenced me to adopt this behavior. This it's my go to for this kind of material.
Second, if I decided to go through with this or accept this as a part of me fully, how can I go about fulfilling this? As anyone else, I do not want to end up hurt or diseased in the end.
I am not ready to tell anyone publicly that I am interested in this except for a select individual. She does not know yet either. That oat is mostly irrelevant outside of the issue I have with finding someone suitable for seeing if I really like this in real life.
What, in your opinions, are my options? Should I speak to a professional about this? There are times where I feel that this is simply an escape from reality and I do not believe that it is healthy. Maybe if I like it I can limit myself to keep myself grounded?
What do you all think?
Its up to you. I watched this deepthroat porn compilation and wondered how it felt to give a blowjob. That's how it started for me. But I layed off the fantasy until I became so obsessed with it that I just had to do it. I knew I would be a bottom too. Long story short, my first time being with a man went really good and I didn't have problem at all. Keep in mind that I had a good amount of sex with different girls (ie: hookers, strippers and college girls) that I was subconsciously getting bored of straight sex and wanted something different.
You may still be in the fantasy phase which is okay. You shouldn't rush into this type of sex because it can leave some guys damaged psychologically. Wearing womens panties may add to the confusion. The last paragraph about seeking help leaves me thinking that its best for you to keep this a fantasy. You have to be 100% certain (and extremely aroused) about same-sex encounters. But, for reference here are my answers to the rest of your questions:
First: Yes, porn is a heavy influence on you sexually. And as you already know, it doesn't have to be gay or tranny porn to make you want same-sex experience. Just feeling what a girl feels is enough. If you still watch porn and have these fantasies, but you are still unsure about fulfilling them, then don't! The urge has to be so strong that you have no choice but to do it.
Second: It depends on what sex you want. There's m4m NSA and there's long-term relationships. I like m4m nsa because its quick. I don't want a relationship. Craigslist, truckstops, and adult theaters is where I find guys. If this is not your thing, then go on apps. It wouldn't hurt to have the type of guy you're into before hand either. Also carry protection! "bug chasers" are real.
Lastly: You don't have to tell anybody about it. Nobody knows I used to bottom for men on occasion and I'm fine with it. The only problem is you're in a relationship. If she found out, wow will you be in trouble lol. Other than that, nothing wrong with having secrets.
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