very confused

courageous--

Your post is a little confusing.

Is this what you said?

Two years ago "X" was interested in your Best Friend. "X" is a shy guy and the relationship went nowhere. Your Best Friend has recovered and no longer has any interest in him.

Now you think "X" may be interested in you, but he's still shy.

Is this the situation?

Problems are much easier to understand when presented in paragraphs with conventional punctuation.

He may not be over her, which is why he's scared to start another relationship (I presume). Just get close to him, if he never opens up to you then there's really nothing you can do.

Maybe tell him to his face you like him. Couldn't hurt.

but then why did he used to wink at me??do u think he trying to get back at her

You're a liberated woman. Ask him to join you for a cup of coffee and ask him why he winks.

its not that easy ,i live in a country which doesn't really allow ,plus my father would never agree.i not allowed to talk to guys he want me to get married by tradional methods

courageous--

Would your father approve of this man? While it would be interesting to know definitively why the guy is winking at you, if your father doesn't approve of him, you'll never be able to use the information.

Would you defy your father?

Where do you live?

I just went to "Fiddler of the Roof." It was a local theater group, and it was done very well.

I am sympathetic. Winking has, probably, more that one meaning, but that which I am used to means that the Winking person is clueing in the person watching the wink, that they have something in common.

It might be, and usually is here in the US, a message of either aligned viewpoint.... that you two might understand this is a joke...

or, what, I don't know. The first is the usual reason.

At least here in the US, it doesn't usually mean the person is keen on or for you as a person, it is just a shortcut means of communication.

I have seen this confused in other posts on a2k, and I think it is that people from other than the US, take a wink as meaning something different, as more of a personal action. In the US, it is not all that personal. Just a clue, from one person to another.

Proverb:

A wink is as good as a nod.

Considering the cultural baggage that you share, would he be flirting?

And so now I understand more about some questions on a2k, that have winking in the explanation part...

I think there is a gap in understanding in regard to the meaning of a real life wink.

And this relates to our a2k relationship forums too... in that many of us misunderstand each other about what a wink means.

Here in the US, it is not very much, but is a nod of understanding.

osso

DUET -- LITTLE BUTTERCUP and CAPTAIN


Things are seldom what they seem,
Skim milk masquerades as cream;
Highlows pass as patent leathers;
Jackdaws strut in peacock's feathers.


CAPT: (puzzled).
Very true,
So they do.


BUTTERCUP:
Black sheep dwell in every fold;
All that glitters is not gold;
Storks turn out to be but logs;
Bulls are but inflated frogs.


CAPT: (puzzled).
So they be,
Frequentlee.


BUTTERCUP:
Drops the wind and stops the mill;
Turbot is ambitious brill;
Gild the farthing if you will,
Yet it is a farthing still.


CAPT: (puzzled).
Yes, I know.
That is so.
Though to catch your drift I'm striving,
It is shady -- it is shady;
I don't see at what you're driving,
Mystic lady -- mystic lady.


BOTH (Aside).
Stern conviction's o'er me stealing,
That the mystic lady's dealing
In oracular revealing.


CAPT (aside).
Yes, I know--


BUTTERCUP (aside).
That is so!


CAPT.
Though I'm anything but clever,
I could talk like that for ever:
Once a cat was killed by care,
Only brave deserve the fair.


BUTTERCUP
Very true,
So they do.


CAPT.
Wink is often good as nod;
Spoils the child who spares the rod;
Thirsty lambs run foxy dangers;
Dogs are found in many mangers.


BUTTERCUP:
Frequentlee,
I agree.


CAPT.
Paw of cat the chestnut snatches;
Worn-out garments show new patches;
Only count the chick that hatches;
Men are grown-up catchy-catchies.


BUTTERCUP:
Yes, I know,
That is so.
(Aside.)
Though to catch my drift he's striving,
I'll dissemble -- I'll dissemble;
When he sees at what I'm driving,
Let him tremble -- let him tremble!

BUTTERCUP/ CAPTAIN
Tho' a mystic tone I borrow, Tho' a mystic tone you borrow,
He will learn the truth with sorrow; I shall learn the truth with sorrow;
Here today and gone tomorrow. Here today and gone tomorrow.


Yes, I know.
That is so!



Yes, I know, That is so! Yes, I know, That is so!

In Western Culture winking has long-established meanings of indicating that the Winker and the Winkee share an understanding.

What does winking mean in your culture?












The Captain and Little Buttercup are singing about confusion in the signals of love:

I've posted this question:

http://www.able2know.com/forums/viewtopic.php?t=38829

i would take as flirting ,i live in the middle east

If you think he's flirting, then smile. Whether or not you can get to know the guy, the wink is a compliment.

i wrote him emails lately but he doesn't reply ,why did he apologise for blocking if he didn't consider me important ???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????

courageous--

What sort of time span are we talking about here? Did he apologize to you for blocking your e mail last week? Last month?

does it matter when he apologised

courageous--

I'm 5000 miles away from you geographically. I have no personal knowledge of Middle Eastern's courting customs. I think all men--far east, near east, western--all men have very peculiar thought proceses when it come to romance.

If this guy apologized last year or even last month and hasn't spoken to you since, I'd say that he probably isn't very interested.

From what I've read and heard about growing up female in the Middle East, since you lack direct experience with the opposite sex, you're forced to fall back on conjecture and abstract analysis.

Unfortunately, I don't know you...or the guy...or the situation.

Suppose I told you that my husband refused to eat his green beans last night and asked you what you thought that meant.

You could guess, sure, but you couldn't give me a definitive answer.

Same thing here with your Romantic Winker. My crystal ball doesn't work over salt water.