@cal21,
If your post is accurate you likely straight up scared her off with the stalkerish/creeper comments.
For future girls...
Don't EVER tell them that they are one of a kind and you can't lose them. Tell them you enjoy the time you spend together. Tell them things you like about them (funny, intelligent, etc). Saying "I can't lose you" makes you sound a tad weak and desperate.
Don't blow up their phone or their friends phones or her sisters phone or anybody else's. You want to hang out you send ONE text "Hey, let's grab dinner this Saturday, I heard about this great -insert her fav food- place we should try out, my treat!" Then let her respond. If she is wanting to spend time with you, she will respond in a timely fashion. Do not ask her again or ask for confirmation or ask her if she got it. If she doesn't respond, that's fine, she's not interested, onward and forward.
Don't ever drag friends, roommates, or family into relationship stuff. If you can't talk directly to her about whatever it is then you'll never work anyways. You want to spend more time together, address that with her and trust what she's telling you. If she says she's really busy then you need to work with that or move on. Don't get all dramatic about how you think you're losing her.
NEVER let the words "I think she may just be confused about...." go through your brain again. If you start to think that you need to ask yourself, "okay, what am I missing, what did I not hear, what did I misunderstand..." because you are likely the one to be confused, not the other person.
Finally, you need to calm the crap down and find something to do besides think about this girl. You come off as a super dramatic 12 year old (maybe you are, in which case I apologise). You gotta calm down, get ahold of yourself and your feels and put on your big boy pants. Women generally like guys that are calm, confident, and secure. You are displaying a dramatic lack of confidence and huge insecurities. Gotta work on that.