@Only1felecia,
You're in such a tough position - you want a family with a loving father, but you can't see it happening.
You're confused as to why it should be this way. The thing is - many people think being in love is the be all and end all of a relationship...but the happiest long term relationships only happen when the couple are both in love
and have compatible character traits. By contrast, there are many people who started happily in love, who ended up miserable due to incompatible character traits.
Your man wasn't ready to be a father, and he resents you wanting your child. Further, he isn't emotionally mature enough to admit it. Instead, he silently blames you. He may still love you, but does
not want a child.
Having said he
may still love you...he's been cheating on you...with multiple women. This behaviour does
not stop overnight, whether he tells you it has or not. By enormous amounts the most common result, is that it never stops.
As to how this can happen - we humans are complicated. Everyone of us has had mixed feelings about a person or a subject. Everyone of us, at some stage, has wanted things we couldn't have, or wanted things that didn't go well together. It's not so hard to feel this way. What matters is how we act on our feelings.
What you want to do is work out his character (principles, values, ethics, beliefs that he lives by) and see whether or not he's compatible with you.
Eg.
-Multiple cheating partners = fidelity isn't a big issue to him
- Putting others down when threatened = will get nasty as a way of managing conflict
- avoids fatherhood conversation = children are a low priority to him at this time in his life (or with you)
Those are just generalisations at this stage. The more conforming his behaviours are to a pattern, the more sure you can be of his character traits.
If it's long term happiness you are after, you need to decide if his character traits are compatible with your happiness.
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As a last note. If a person says one thing and does another, always believe the actions. Genuineness is shown when a persons beliefs, words, and actions match.