Why does my husband call me by my maiden name and not his name?

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My husband will usually refer to me by my old maiden name rather then address me with his surname....while it may seem petty this really bothers me! Am I overreacting? I would like to be referred to by my new name I'm quite proud of him and to be with him so why not? He says it's because he thinks I might miss my old name since living with it for so long -_- so silly. I even feel silly for asking...but it's just one of those things I can't get over 😓

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@ash16,

How long have you been married?

PS I'm married almost 25 years and my father still, at times, refers to me by my maiden name.

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@jespah,

Haha not very long! Only 2 years. Father yeah, to me husband is just like ugh irritating...I think I'm thinking too much Smile

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@ash16,

If everything else is hunky dory, then thank your lucky stars if this is your biggest problem. Smile

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@jespah,

You're absolutely right! Thanks! Just had a silly girl moment >_<

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I don't understand what is meant by calling you by your maiden name. I call my wife "Miranda", and not "Miss Ermentraut", or "Mrs Centrox", as that would seem excessively formal in a husband-and-wife situation. Am I very modern and advanced?

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@centrox,

I take it as being meant fondly.

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@centrox,

centrox wrote:

as that would seem excessively formal in a husband-and-wife situation.

I tend to refer to Set as Mr. His Last Name. Startles people sometimes. I can't remember how it started but 20 years on it makes me smile.

Of course we also called the old dogs Mr. Bailey and Miss Cleo.

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They call me Mister Tibbs.

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@ossobucotemp,

ossobucotemp wrote:

I take it as being meant fondly.

Exactly. Harking back (affectionately) to the time before she was Mrs Whatever. So why the fuss?

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@ehBeth,

ehBeth wrote:

Of course we also called the old dogs Mr. Bailey and Miss Cleo.

We have a little friend called Mrs Fluffy.

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Depends on WHEN he calls you by your maiden name To chastise people, call them by their first , middle and last name. Is this what he's doing?

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@centrox,

When I worked for the Social I had to help one old boy complete a pension claim because he was illiterate. Let's call him Mr Smith. It all started off alright, I asked him if he was married, and his response was, "Yes I've been married 40 years." Then I asked his wife's name, and his response was, "There you've got me. I always call her Mrs Smith." He spent the next 15 minutes futilely trying to remember her name, but to no avail.

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@izzythepush,

I sort of get that, the memory lapses. Mine fix them selves.
So far.
Not so funny when it happens.

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@ossobucotemp,

I don't think it was memory loss as such, he had no problems detailing his employment history, he'd never called her by her first name. ( I shudder to think what their pillow talk was like.)

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@izzythepush,

ok, ok, odd.

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@izzythepush,

In pillow talk you do not need any correct name at all.

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@ossobucotemp,

He wasn't the oddest individual I encountered by any means.

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@izzythepush,

I have no idea what my mother called my father.
In her letters she very lovingly calls him by last name.
His first name was very short and could be used in a harsh way. Like the Anglican name Dick.
The last name, which is longer you can pronounce much softer and kinder.
Say like Cooper.

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This is not as sad or sick as when couples call each other "Dad" and "Mother" for years!!

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