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Wanting to switch gyms, but my ex goes to the gym I wanna switch to...not sure if I should?

 
 
Reply Tue 18 Apr, 2017 11:54 am
So the current gym I go to is expensive and by expensive I mean $195 a month, but I got extras, and it's spacious and they include everything I don't have to bring anything with me. Another problem, though, is obviously I can't find anyone else to go with me. The gym my ex goes to is very popular and we wanted to work out together, but we didn't have the same gym membership at the same place...and now we aren't speaking because of something else.

I was thinking about switching for some time, but I do remember he said he works out with a girl there, it may be just talking, but still that would irritate me seeing him there with her. We wouldn't be in the same area.

I'd be on the basketball courts and he'd be in the lifting area or wherever he is.

The people at my gym don't let me play pick up games with them and I didn't pay that much to not be able to play because they've known each other a while and they're mostly guys. I'm literally one of two girls there.

I heard ex's gym is much better with the pick up games and the member ship is much cheaper -- about $40 a month...however, I purposely didn't pick his gym because I know it's always crowded and sweaty and gross with that many people.

But for the pick up games, I'm thinking it might be worth it. And it's at a convenient location, near everything I go to.

I don't care if my ex is there one way or another because I'm there for the pick up games, but still, I just don't want to see him talking to someone else and what if I wanted to bring someone else, too?

Since we aren't speaking right now, I was thinking may be joining his gym might have us talk again and have something to do together since he's there a lot, but I don't want to join at the same time because I don't want him to think I did it for him when I'm there for the pick up games also. He just happens to be there.

I want to stay at my nice private hotel gym, but again, the members there don't include me in games and I can't find any friends to go with since it's so expensive. It's worth it, though.

Would you stay at the nice gym or switch? I can't decide.
 
centrox
 
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Reply Tue 18 Apr, 2017 12:14 pm
The real question is 'do you want to see more of your ex?'. If the answer is 'yes', go for the new gym, if not, don't. Regarding all that about not wanting to see him with someone else, or have him see you with someone else, sounds like there's baggage there still?
farmerman
 
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Reply Tue 18 Apr, 2017 12:59 pm
@centrox,
are all people this shallow?
This place us getting like a Seinfeld episode.
bballislife
 
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Reply Tue 18 Apr, 2017 01:22 pm
@farmerman,
I'm not sure who you are calling shallow, farmerman...what's it to you if I want to pay for a gym I can afford? Should I have to dumb myself down to your level so you won't think I'm "shallow?" I hope most of you commenters on here aren't this judgmental.
bballislife
 
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Reply Tue 18 Apr, 2017 01:30 pm
@farmerman,
I like how you think you personally know someone on a forum misreading a few of someone's post. Personally, I think you like the drama. I've been reading some of your other responses in other threads...seems like you like getting people riled up instead of actually answering people's questions you'd rather say there's something wrong with them or shallow...and nowhere in your response did you say anything about the actual post I posted but somehow you're getting up votes. Strange. Why are you getting upvotes when you didn't even answer the question?
centrox
 
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Reply Tue 18 Apr, 2017 01:43 pm
@bballislife,
bballislife wrote:
Why are you getting upvotes when you didn't even answer the question?

To take a wild guess, for the same reason you're getting downvotes,
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bballislife
 
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Reply Tue 18 Apr, 2017 02:42 pm
@farmerman,
I like it, I answer your post, and you have no response. I'd rather be shallow than judgmental like you. Smile
ehBeth
 
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Reply Tue 18 Apr, 2017 03:12 pm
Are there only two places in town to play basketball/go to the gym? are you part of a local pick-up league?
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farmerman
 
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Reply Tue 18 Apr, 2017 03:28 pm
@bballislife,
people want to help, but there always is a sense of honesty Id like to pursue. I calls em as I sees em.
YOU are asking advice of something rather trivial (beyond your relationship) I actually dropped in cause I saw a response from people I respect.

My Seinfeld response still holds.

BTW welcome to A2K. Im one of the nice ones , usually.

chai2
 
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Reply Tue 18 Apr, 2017 04:22 pm
@farmerman,
farmerman wrote:


YOU are asking advice of something rather trivial (beyond your relationship)

My Seinfeld response still holds.



To answer your question bball, stop going to the gym that costs you $195/mo and join the gym that costs $40/mo

If someone is your ex, that means you are no longer in a relationship.

If you see him there, with or without someone else, big deal.

If you want to bring someone with you, that's up to you.

Next case.


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tsarstepan
 
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Reply Wed 19 Apr, 2017 09:00 am
@bballislife,
bballislife wrote:

I'm not sure who you are calling shallow, farmerman...

You are because you creating more drama than what actually exists in the real world. Your scenario of hijinks that being you'll run across your ex at the gym only happens in really terrible 90s sitcoms.

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what's it to you if I want to pay for a gym I can afford?

He's right because you LITERALLY already have your answer in this post I'm replying to.

Just go to the gym. Statistically speaking, you will not likely see very much of your ex unless you purposefully go the same time he/she goes to the gym and how would you know that unless he/she's so predictable or you're stalking him/her?
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izzythepush
 
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Reply Wed 19 Apr, 2017 09:10 am
@bballislife,
bballislife wrote:

I'm there for the pick up games


Is it just monkeys, or are there other animals too?
glitterbag
 
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Reply Wed 19 Apr, 2017 09:50 am
@izzythepush,
You made me laugh.
izzythepush
 
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Reply Wed 19 Apr, 2017 10:45 am
@glitterbag,
I'm glad someone on this thread is.
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saab
 
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Reply Wed 19 Apr, 2017 11:16 am
Please.
what is a pick up game???
I know what a pick up truck is. Do you play with small trucks?
To pick up someone at the gym, when they are finished is a nice thing
A pick up game at the gym.....? Is that a modern word for kind of flirting?
If yes - then it is embarrasing with your ex around.
chai2
 
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Reply Wed 19 Apr, 2017 12:52 pm
@saab,
saab, a pick up game is one where people present just start to spontaneously start a game, like basketball. Like it wasn't planned beforehand.
saab
 
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Reply Wed 19 Apr, 2017 12:54 pm
@chai2,
I guessed it could be something like that...but
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ehBeth
 
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Reply Wed 19 Apr, 2017 03:42 pm
@saab,
Gyms sometimes set aside blocks of time when anyone showing up can play basketball (or whatever team sport they are set up for). So the teams are called pick-up teams as they are not pre-assigned/pre-arranged. It's whoever is there and wants to play.

https://localwiki.org/toronto/Pick-up_Sports

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Pick-up sports are the opposite of league sports (which require a certain amount of time and monetary commitment). Pick-up sports are free and welcome to anyone to just show up and play!

OpenSports is an App which helps you find a variety of local pickup sports sorted by the sport(s) you love, your location, and your availability. They are proudly Toronto based and have a lot of pickup soccer listings, along with shinny hockey, drop-in basketball, table tennis, underwater sports, and running opportunities.

The largest pick-up sports organization in Toronto is the [Toronto Outdoor Club], a free, member-run outdoor club. Pick-up sports played include: Baseball, Basketball, Football, Hockey (Floor or Road), Soccer and Ultimate Frisbee.
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