Would You breakup with your Bf/Gf just because they lost weight?

"Just because"? Nothing else involved? Really? Of course love comes first, but I think I would be more likely to stay with, rather than leave, someone who lost weight, if they were fat before. But I am not a chubby chaser so I would most likely not start going out with a fat person anyhow. If they had a problem like anorexia, I hope I would want to care for them, but that can be very difficult. Not clear how much weight you are talking about here.

Love isn't a necessarily rational process; people can be fickle. People can be selfish. We have an institution — "marriage" — which seeks to insure lifelong union but it can't insure lifelong love.

If you love someone that may be your (admirable) view of the matter but not everyone has that sort of commitment or that strong a sense of the duty.

The only way I can fathom this being relatively acceptable as if the person in question has bulimia or anorexia or some kind of eating disorder which he or she refuses to address or get medical attention for. That the dumper in question can not morally or emotionally support the dumpee after reaching so many appeals for that person to get therapy/psych help.

What I mean is, I had all my life been thin with a cutebody, but when I started going out with my boyfriend, he met me thin as well, but some time into the relationship I started going to they gym and got bulky and a little more curvy, and I guess he liked that, so last year I lost almost 10 pounds and I loved it, because honestly the body I gained from the gym, is not my real body, I mean I have been thin all my life and I just decided to be true to myself, and he just started nagging (Not in a mean way, but about how skinny I was, and that I need to eat, and that he was concerned) and all of this bothered me., I felt as if he just loved the body I had before and now he dislikes the way I look.

If we take you word at face value, he sounds particularly emotionally immature. Not worth the effort in keeping that relationship alive and kicking.

Unless you do in fact have an undiagnosed eating disorder? Still sucks that he doesn't find it in himself to support you. Maybe that should be taken into consideration or a third opinion from a medical or neutral party that can actually meet you in person.

Did it take too much work to be curvy and bulked up?

Then just tell him it's too much time/energy to keep up that look.

If he doesn't like the way you are, move on.

The reality is that we all like what we like - and that can change.

Someone might break up with someone else because either what they prefer changed or the other person changed. It doesn't seem great to me, but I recognize it as a real possibility.

@PUNKEY exactly why would he still be around, I toldhim listen if you don't like it then find someone else, (cause I got mad), I said it like it that, he is like ''listen you need to eat more, you look unhealthy and too skinny'' you will stay alone if you keep that weight'' (that last part hurt me, but I did not show him how it made me felt) it's true I have lost weight and its noticeable, but I dont have an eating disorder at all, I love and enjoy eating, sweets, fatty foods, pizza, my metabolism is high and I drink lots of water. and I eat moderate portions.

That 'last part' should have caused a 'fight', because on his part - it was self serving, nasty, and putting you down. There's a lot to benefit from showing him that such words are hurtful (you are being true to yourself when you do this, and you are showing him the affects on other people of his actions), while also standing up for yourself (which tells yourself that you are worth more than his words, while letting him know he was wrong). The combination of being true to yourself while standing up for yourself is one of the cornerstones of both assertiveness, and (more importantly) self esteem.

That said, the reason people are being careful is that these sort of things usually have a lot more involved that the surface goings on. Often a lot of information & perspective is missing (which you may, or may not be privy to)

I think healthily slim girls are really beautiful. I would not be hassling you to put on weight. Believe me.

Find a guy who appreciates how you want to look. And won't nag you for changing.

Thanks, cause in the back of my head it started to make me a tad bit insecure. jejeje I aint got time for nagging. LOL as they say'' Aint nobody got time for that''