Am I right to feel like she ditched me or am I overthinking this?

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I have been dating this girl for a couple of months we go on about 3 dates a week. Things were going great she was flirty and everything and felt like she was really interested. Well it all started to go down hill about 2 weeks ago. She went camping with her best friend and her bestfriends BF and BFs Bestfriend. She didn't really mention that there were guys, until she was telling me a story about it when we hung out when she got back. They were all drinking. I don't know if anything happened or not. but one thing that draws me to this girl so much is that I feel like I can trust her. Well me and her were planning a beach trip with her other friend and her bf, whom we double dated with a month ago. So the date we planned started running closer and closer she hasn't mentioned anything.. Well I asked her about what was the plan for the beach trip. (I took off 3 days of work just to go)
Then she said she didn't even know what the plans were and im more than welcome to meet them there? Red flags every where. The time me and her spent there were so bland and she didn't seem interested and she was on her phone alot. So the next day she didn't want me to get mad because she was going to go hang out with her friends who were also at the beach. We'll i didn't mind she left because I didn't know they were "guy friends" she ditched me for. How should I feel about this? I feel like I should just walk away from this before I get hurt. She knew how I felt about her and she was giving me mixed signals. Or am In the wrong for expecting?
It's a lot to explain so you can Imagine my point of view.
If I do decide to walk away from her how should I do it without being an ass?

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@ryanthonytx,

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I feel like I should just walk away from this before I get hurt.

I agree.

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If I do decide to walk away from her how should I do it without being an ass?

Be a gentleman.

Time to move on.

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@ryanthonytx,

Ask her where you think this is going. You need to know one way or another.

People don't like dumping people so they use avoidance techniques, she may be doing that, or just hanging out with other friends. You need to know, and only she can tell you that.

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@ryanthonytx,

ryan,

I wouldn't say anything to her. Just stop texting or calling her. If she texts or calls you respond but don't expect anything. I wouldn't tell her you are moving in just be casual friendly. But if she asks and only if she asks why you haven't called or text her say you felt she wasn't interested so stopped.

I would move on without looking back. She sounds like she's playing the field. You are better off moving on if she is.

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@ryanthonytx,

Two observations for you to think about.

First, you say you've only been dating for a couple of months. Do the two of you have any kind of agreement to go out exclusively? If now, then neither of you should get upset when the others goes out with someone else.

Second, it has only been a couple of months. Maybe she is not ready to fully commit to you. Maybe she has decided she does not want to commit to a relationship with you. TALK to her. Find out what she wants. Then, during this conversation, if you don't hear the answers you want or need to hear, you can simply tell her that you think it is best to end the relationship. That is how you do it without being an ass.

Good luck.

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She acts like she does not have any kind of commitment to you and her and that she does not want to be seen as being "with" you at gatherings.

Is that how YOU saw it?

Best to let this go - and DON'T let her use you for escort or for paying for anything in the future. Act like YOU are single and free to mingle - with no ties and very eligible. (that's how she's acting anyway.)

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Alright so i haven't intitated any contact. She texted me 3 times in all before I even saw my phone the next day. She may have called as well idk.
We texted very briefly last night. I told her she could text me in the morning if she wanted. She did just that and texted me first thing.. Don't worry I'm not jumping back and waiting by the phone. Im going to keep up this no text or call first thing for a few days and see how it goes....

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And one more quick thing...
I should definitely how she feels about me and if I decide to end things it is alot better in person correct?

I ask because this whole week im working out of town for a few days.
This is something that needs to be addressed ASAP but that would be hard if we're both busy the next few days... Any thoughts

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Don't be so 'available" to her every text.

Make her miss you.

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Am I right to feel like she ditched me or am I overthinking this?

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