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I had a girl came to my life.she is like a crush to me.At first she shown interest to me ,i also likes here she was beautyfull and all.we both knew we love each other but oit of ego we dont tell this thing to each other.it kept growing in my mind.My mind is all filled with her thoughts.she caming to my life like an angel and all.It was all fantasy but in real life i cant even get me talk to her.the emotional turmoil is so high.
I thought this emotions will go but it is three montha now it kept growing and now it becomes so much complex.i cannot think clearly what my mind is doing.involuntarly i am doing many things like following her,making her angry...
I always kept gaze with her now also because i dont like her to leave me.i want her.but the idea of livimg with her making chilla down my spine.i am a very reserved guy and i really fear a relationship,its complications and all.
Today also she came and to see me i think.she was forcing me to do something.i thoight she really liked to talk to me ao i sent a friend reauest to her but she never accepted it.that makes me so depressed and all.i dont why this is so complexx??

Why cant i even talk to her??

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@nikov,

Because you have invested far too much into this fantasy.

It's a fantasy until you open your mouth and start talking. So start talking. It does not have to be anything deep, and for God's sake, don't talk about feelings. Say hello. Ask about work or school or whatever applies. Keep it light and make it last less than 5 minutes.

Do this in person, not on Facebook or any other form of social media.

And by the way, you have no idea how she feels, seeing as you can't even say three words to her. You could be misinterpreting everything here. Finally, why didn't she friend you on social media? Because you are not friends. Right now, you are just some guy who stares at her.

Start to talk to her, even a little bit, or you will always just be this random guy who stares at her.

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@jespah,

Jespah..But its not i who started it.If that was the case what u said was right.ahe started it.She came behind me.I shown interest and excitement because i dont even believed such beautyfull girls will come behind me.What i made mistake was i acted with insecurity.Like i have fear looking at her face.Mindimg her when she looks at me.i had even seem her friends showing me to her and then she suddenly chamged her position towards me.i had seen it all and i am damn sure....
what i am confused is that why did she dont want to talk yo me??
or why did shendonot accept my friend reauest?
i dont know i am so much confused,,this is so complex...

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@nikov,

nikov wrote:

in real life i cant even get me talk to her.

Why cant i even talk to her??

have you talked to a doctor about this?

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If you're not ready to talk to a professional about this, start by saying hello to her when you see her.

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@nikov,

nikov wrote:

Jespah..But its not i who started it

it doesn't matter who started it.

you are interested in her - yet you don't talk to her. if you want a relationship, you are going to have to speak to her.

say hello.

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@ehBeth,

today also she came there to my block to be precious.I am so angry that she left me alone for all these days and had not accepted my friend request.i felt so angry i exchanged an angrry look with her when i saw her.i was that much frustrated and painfull inside.i want to somehow get her away from my mind.I saw her walking away alone and that makes me sad once more..even though she is playing with my mind so hard....
speech was the main barrier between me and her and it destroyed everything.our relationship ruined...misunderstandings and alll...i am fed up

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@nikov,

You don't have a relationship to be destroyed.

I don't care how she was supposedly looking at you months ago. You have no idea what was in her head at the moment. You have made up over 99% of this. She's not playing with your mind. I am sure she barely knows you exist.

Sorry, but it's likely true.

You want to know what goes through my mind when I stare at someone? I may be wondering where they got their jacket or why they thought their haircut was attractive. Maybe they're eating a candy bar and I'm hungry. Maybe I'm trying to stare out the window and they are in the way. Maybe I am just staring into space.

Go and see a doctor about this before your anger turns violent and this poor gal doesn't know WTF just happened if you lash out.

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@jespah,

i know that i need to think before actions.When she came to meet me at first.to see me.i acted so rudely but i swear it was all my thoughtless actions.i just act on my mood or my temper which makes girla away from me.i just dont even think how to impress a girl,how to act so they became happy...
I cannot put my thoughts in actions..
It was one of my deficiency and i realises that kept my girl away from me.she expected something from me but i was not able to give it.First of all i have strong love for her,but i was not able to ezpress those in actions....
Today she sit in my same class and she looked at me...she sleeped there smiling...
she after the class in the second floor she tried to look up.i can easily observe her minute actions and easily decode what it means...she is actually interested in me maybe she is waiting to see if i can prove myself be a gentlemen....

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@nikov,

Once again, you are making this up out of whole cloth. You have NO IDEA what is in her head. Please stop thinking you can read her mind. You cannot. No ifs ands or buts about it, no exceptions, no maybes, nothing. You do not know what she is thinking. You are in a lecture hall. There is every possibility that smile you thought you saw was meant for someone sitting next to or in front of or behind you. Or maybe she's thinking of a joke she heard earlier that day. You have no idea. Stop making this **** up.

Right now, you are just a rude, quiet guy who stares at her.

I urge you to talk to a doctor about this. And if you are living in a place where seeing a psychologist is the absolute worst thing that could ever, ever happen, consider that you are currently living at the whims of someone you don't even know. You are too paralysed to even say hi to this person. And you are creating a huge fantasy around her. All of that spells that you need help and that you are also, perhaps, having issues in other areas of your life.

I'm done here. Good luck and I hope you get the help you need.

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@jespah,

hmmm...i am starting to figure out things.sorry i was so confused thats why.maybe or infact she was not at all thinking like what i am imaginating.its all in my head and maybe i nees to see some drs..yes of she was interested in me she may probably express it.there is no need for me to decode her every single move and interpret it like a compiler...
i am so weal in this issue.i know.and thanks jespah for guiding me ...
I am now somewhat returning to normal being.this love thing has nearly taken away my sleeps and all.now i am getting more practical thankss...

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