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Tue 26 Oct, 2004 07:25 pm
a question for all you women out there...do you prefer a guy just does whatever to please you sexually or does it bother you if he asks like very intimately "where do you want me to touch you"?
It's a nice thought, but I find it kind of cheesy....besides, if I want something, i don't let it go un noticed!
I'd rather have him do "whatever" and then if he does something wrong or not enough, I put out the road signs. Asking first tends to take the spontaneity out... I think it's better to address issues as they come along
Depends....are they tied up or not?
Depends usually have velcro for a good fit.
There is a serious lovemaking session visual I really didn't need...
Please a woman? Rhetorical question right?
I remember one night I asked a girl what she wanted me to do and she answered make me float above the covers.....so I wiped off on her curtains...she hit the ceiling!!!!
Oldie but goodie!!!!!
2 guys answered lol...so you would think they have no clue...lol...but tis better to ask than plod around and me rolling my eyes...I would be happy to teach you :-)
I have no clue...I just hone in on the decibel meter.
Women like a man with a good sense of humour, so when you first see them naked, point at them and laugh.
Actually, if you do indeed value your life, never ever do that.
So we have female votes for don't ask, just do, and for asking is good, another example that women can't make up their minds, erm, that they are all individuals of complex beauty <I think that's better>. It never hurts to ask, or at least look at a few diagrams. Best to do both, so you're prepared. Just don't look surprised when they actually get off. That's a total buzzkill for women. Pretend you planned it.
personally I like women who fake their orgasms.....eliminates performance anxiety :wink:
In all seriousness now, and I can only talk from my own experiences, the more confident a woman is, the less likely they will want you to ask. The shy ones, who maybe don't know themselves as well, may like to be asked. Then there are those in between, confident and also willing to teach. Yes, it is confusing.
It's quite an eye opener reading here along
Don't ask. As others females here have said (interpret that as - ignore the guys responses. Their having fun with you) if there's something we want or don't want we know how to move or guide. You aren't in charge of the whole show, so be willing to take direction.
I don't think you have to ask if you know what you are doing...but he "asked" like maybe "HE" had no clue in what a woman really likes...of course this does vary from woman to woman...I LOVE my back to be tickled and kissed and stroked and then you could do just about anything you wanted with me...but when a guy is inexperienced i still think asking is best...maybe watch a porn movie together and make comments like...
Does that look like it feels good?
See that is what i really hate lover, no sperm in the eye!
Heels would put a hole in the silk sheets sweetie...
Try one finger at a time...
cavfancier wrote:In all seriousness now, and I can only talk from my own experiences, the more confident a woman is, the less likely they will want you to ask. The shy ones, who maybe don't know themselves as well, may like to be asked. Then there are those in between, confident and also willing to teach. Yes, it is confusing.
I think it also works the other way around... asking a confident woman will let her know that she has control over you and will no doubt boost her ego (that sounds good
), and a shy woman would probably completely panic at the question...
Crazy-Girl wrote:cavfancier wrote:In all seriousness now, and I can only talk from my own experiences, the more confident a woman is, the less likely they will want you to ask. The shy ones, who maybe don't know themselves as well, may like to be asked. Then there are those in between, confident and also willing to teach. Yes, it is confusing.
I think it also works the other way around... asking a confident woman will let her know that she has control over you and will no doubt boost her ego (that sounds good
), and a shy woman would probably completely panic at the question...
And you wonder why men are so confused. :wink:
I agree, Crazy-Girl. I like being asked. I don't interpret it as a lack of experience on the guy's part, but rather proof that he's interested in pleasing me. Which is a definite turn-on.
Of course, there are different ways to find out what pleases another person, and experimenting is all part of the fun! (I agree with squinney about moving & guiding...nonverbal instructions often work best.)
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