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First date, HELP!!!

 
 
Reply Mon 27 Feb, 2017 06:59 pm
So basically, I downloaded this dating app (similar to tinder) about four months ago, the first girl I matched with I kinda got too attached and didn't really know what to do. But somehow through persistence we talked on and off until now, it seems to have got a lot better since we started a snapchat streak. And finally after four long months we're going to meet up. Problem is, I'm kinda shy around girls, I'll talk to them, but occasionally I'll blush which makes things pretty awkward.
Over messages things seem to be going well and I'm confident and all that, will it be the same in real life?? Also, should we go to the cinema, seeing as I can't really keep a conversation flowing, so after the film we can get something to eat and talk about the film and all that...
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
 
jespah
 
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Reply Mon 27 Feb, 2017 07:18 pm
@peterrflemdog,
A film sounds like a good idea. And don't worry about blushing. It's not awkward. It's adorable.

Consider, also, some conversational topics. Not to have a script but to have a few go-to's. Politics and religion are too heavy for a first date. The weather should be an absolute last resort, and sports a second-to-last resort unless you know she's a sports fan. Work and/or school should be pretty low on your list, too.

A few ideas of what to talk about (in no particular order):
  • Books you have recently read
  • Concerts you have recently attended
  • Do you cook or bake? Maybe you can bring up something interesting you made, or even a funny story about a kitchen disaster
  • What you wanted to be when you grew up, back when you were, say, five years old
  • Places you would love to visit if money were no object, and why
  • What you think will be invented next/what's going to be the next big thing?
  • Whether you think there's life on other planets (I'm a geek so I like this one, but your mileage may vary)
  • The first job you ever had
  • Your favorite film of all time
  • Which ten songs would you take with you to a desert island if you had to stay there forever and could only listen to those ten songs?
  • What's the best/scariest ghost story you have ever heard?
I realize it's easy to see some or even all of these topics as being lame, but they are all safe and inoffensive, and they don't have any right or wrong answers. And don't forget to listen more than you talk!

It'll be great. Don't worry.
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Krumple
 
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Reply Tue 28 Feb, 2017 01:28 am
@peterrflemdog,
Listen to Jespah.

Blushing isn't bad, most women find it appealing. Makes you seem less threatening.

I personally think movie dates are terrible first date selections.

The trick with talking with her is to not build her up in your mind like you are doing. Just treat her like a person with no expectations. Play around, be goofy and silly. It will keep you from being worried that if you say something she will run a way laughing at you.

Dont take yourself so serious. Rejection isn't the end of the world. If it doesn't work out she's not your only chance at love.

Let go. The best conversations are usually about nothing. Just talk.

Here is the thing. Everyone has practiced having conversations. No one started out great. Sometimes the mistakes are part of the humor that builds a connection within the conversation.
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peterrflemdog
 
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Reply Tue 7 Mar, 2017 02:46 pm
Ok, so it's happening on Sunday, any other ideas other than a movie, should have about £50 to spend - also we're both 17 if that makes any difference
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