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Sat 21 Jan, 2017 07:10 pm
So I met this amazing girl last year. She is one of the funniest,prettiest,and nicest girl I ever met. We share quite a bit in common and such. We talked and started to get to know each other better. She started to give me hugs like 3 times a weeks and such, sometimes they came out of no where. Eventually homecoming came along and I chickened out about asking her to the dance but I still went anyway. Some how she didn't have a date so we both ended up being each others dance partners for the evening where she then asked me if I wanted to go with her and her friends for a bite to eat after the dance. So of course I said yes! A about a month or two passes and it is new years eve. We all get together to celebrate and we go out for a walk. Eventually it gets cold out and she grabs my hand and says she is trying to warm her hand up but it wasn't even that cold (her hand that is) and we hold hands for a while. I realize then and there that I really really love her. About a week passes and I try to ask her out twice but I chicken out both times. So I end up texting her about how I feel. She responds saying that She is not ready for a relationship but tells me that Im a very lovable guy and that she loves the time we have spent together but, says she has to focus on this year and her working on her future career. And says that she hopes this doesn't affect our friendship. I want to know If her say she is not ready for a relationship, is a way of saying I just see you as a friend and want it to stay that way or if she REALLY is not ready but is considering me as an option for when the time comes. ( if so I can and will wait)
She seemed very clear to me. I would go exactly by what she said.
If you want to know if there's a chance something may develope later on, you'll have to ask her, as no one can read her mind.
@Answ,
Answ wrote:
So I met this amazing girl last year. She is one of the funniest,prettiest,and nicest girl I ever met. We share quite a bit in common and such. We talked and started to get to know each other better. She started to give me hugs like 3 times a weeks and such, sometimes they came out of no where. Eventually homecoming came along and I chickened out about asking her to the dance but I still went anyway. Some how she didn't have a date so we both ended up being each others dance partners for the evening where she then asked me if I wanted to go with her and her friends for a bite to eat after the dance. So of course I said yes! A about a month or two passes and it is new years eve. We all get together to celebrate and we go out for a walk. Eventually it gets cold out and she grabs my hand and says she is trying to warm her hand up but it wasn't even that cold (her hand that is) and we hold hands for a while. I realize then and there that I really really love her. About a week passes and I try to ask her out twice but I chicken out both times. So I end up texting her about how I feel. She responds saying that She is not ready for a relationship but tells me that Im a very lovable guy and that she loves the time we have spent together but, says she has to focus on this year and her working on her future career. And says that she hopes this doesn't affect our friendship. I want to know If her say she is not ready for a relationship, is a way of saying I just see you as a friend and want it to stay that way or if she REALLY is not ready but is considering me as an option for when the time comes. ( if so I can and will wait)
Friend zone. She only considers you a friend. Telling you all that stuff about needing to focus on this year and not ready for a relationship is her nice way of saying shes not interested.
You chickened out and she knows plus your behavior around her probably reveals you are scared of her, lack confidence and would become too needy if she dated you.
This one won't go any further than it is right now.
I farging hate that term "friend zone".
As if no one has ever been friends before becoming involved.
It's the thing someone says right before "I give up"
Also it's always directed at women like it's something we/they "do" to men. It also implies the word "bitch" should be used used about the female that is inflicting this curse on some poor male.
@chai2,
chai2 wrote:I farging hate that term "friend zone".
Friend zone is a concept that exists in the minds of a certain type of man, one who thinks that he should be entitled to have sex with any woman he wants, and that the ones who don't find him attractive are somehow just doing it to be difficult.
@centrox,
It really just means that he's not going any further. (Or is that farther?)
Funny, I don't hear guys use the term. They say "just not that in to her."
@PUNKEY,
As far as I can recall, it's only men that use that term about women. Yes they will say "I'm not into her" when it's their rejecting a female, but when the situation is reversed, they will announce that that she put him in the FZ. You won't hear them saying "she just wasn't into me"
@centrox,
Sorry, yes. The good ones certainly do.
@chai2,
It is the rational response. Pointless to flog a dead horse.
@centrox,
My mother used to say, "Don't try to feed a dead horse."
I honestly can't see the problem. I can see that I am not equally attracted to all women. Some are gorgeous, some are great, some just don't light a spark in me. Also, beyond the visual attraction, there is the question of personality, beliefs, values, lifestyle, etc. So not all are going to ring my bell. Surely it is rational to understand that it is the same for women. Not all guys are going to ring their bells either. If I should find that I am keen on a woman but I am in the section of male humanity that don't ring her bell, or I do but she has other things to do right now, well, best to be stoical and move on.
@centrox,
wise man (not meant sardonically)
@chai2,
chai2 wrote:
As far as I can recall, it's only men that use that term about women. Yes they will say "I'm not into her" when it's their rejecting a female, but when the situation is reversed, they will announce that that she put him in the FZ. You won't hear them saying "she just wasn't into me"
Well your premise is false because, I said it.
@Krumple,
Krumple wrote:Well your premise is false because, I said it.
We already cleared that up.
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