Sad sex life, Bf rather get lost in his games?

Our sex life is almost non existant. He gets upset and says he feels crappy that he gets tired easily, goes soft when he's on top because of insecurity and lack of stamina. He never eats me out (because I get too wet for his liking) and I've told him how fingering doesn't do much for me. But he will make me go down on him or ride him (now won't even put it in because my period was late and says he won't have sex until we have condoms but won't make an effort to get them)

My boyfriend and I play games so I understand that whole jazz. Lately I haven't been playing since I haven't found one that catches my attention. My boyfriend on the other hand plays a lot, and when he does he is always playing some hot female, spending hours on their appearance and dressing them in sexy clothes.

Recently he has been stuck on Skyrim (I loved that game in its vanilla standard) but he's been modding the hell out of it and I noticed he's been looking into hot female followers, undergarments and sexy outfits.. Even saw he went to a sex modding site for it too.

I told him how it made me feel that he looks at those women and spends more time to make them oh so perfect to stare at for hours on end, while I spend time on my appearance just for him to ignore any effort I've made. He says the excuses I've stated above and says he wants to go into a dark fantasy with sex appeal and I can understand that but.. I'm sitting over here like why the hell do I even bother. I get more attention from customers at work than I do him. And if I say that he will try to please me in the moment but its back to square one right after.

Hes been out of work for three months now.. He plays from 8am to noon, naps, gets back on around 5-7pm until 3am and repeats every day. He tries telling me to nap with him or stay on the bed while he naps, then I tell him he'd rather play his game than cuddle when I do to bed so I shouldn't have to for him.. Then he gets sad and pouts and makes me feel bad..

I try telling him how i makes me feel and he just starts crying saying how crappy he feels that he cannot please me (when he does!) and how he doesn't like his image because he gained weight.. Claims I hate him because the tone of my voice when I try explaining my side and he doesn't seem to get it.. I don't know what to do about it anymore.