sozobe wrote:Well, why haven't you after four years...?
Soz, if they're 18 now, that means they've been seeing each other since they were 14.
I liked your advice about saying, "Have you ever thought about not stopping?" Then he could add, "Well, sure I have, but I don't think we're ready for that yet. I figure when you're ready, you'll let me know. Until then, I'm happy with where we are." And yes, nimh is right, definitely bring it up at a private but not kissy moment.
I don't think it's a bit strange that they're not ready for all of it at 18. Sex is more complicated than most teenagers realize...especially if they're in a serious relationship. I think he's being very mature for his age, and I am glad he's thinking it through.