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I was led on, help

 
 
warus
 
Reply Mon 12 Dec, 2016 11:25 am
Well, she led me on. (first time told me that she likes me and wants to be with me but doesn't want anything with anyone, yet continued to **** another guy and almost got into a relationship with him) I was her very good friend, and she basically told me that i am the best guy she has ever met. We did ended up together a few times, and she did want a relationship with me in the beginning, but i didn't want it then.

After talking for a long time, and where in the beginning she was in love with me, she was always the one to initiate contact, but was leading me on twice, after i forgave her the first time, she did it again. (yes, i know, don't say anything about that i am an idiot) and is currently getting into a relationship with a guy. She always rejected meetups, even though we were **** buddies. In the last few weeks she told me: I love you, you are the best thing that happened to me, i am falling back in love with you, i would kill myself if you weren't here. So she lied about all that and told me that she was mistaken about falling in love and that she is really sorry. (I found out about that from her best friend, not her, she would have kept that a secret and never tell me, and probably continue to give me false hope.)

I told her that from now on we will not talk anymore, and if she ever wants something more with me to call me, and that i don't want to be her friend. So currently i am ignoring her. We go to college together and i am always ignoring her even there, like she doesn't exist. 2 days passed and today she sent me a message saying: I miss you Sad, to which i responded: I am doing this for myself, you have played with me for far too long and ended the conversation there.

How should i go on about her from now on? I know she cares about me as a person (i even found out from her best friend that she really cried that day), and that it is possible for her to fall back in love with me, but she didn't give me any chance. I am thinking of ignoring her, is that a good decision?
 
jespah
 
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Reply Mon 12 Dec, 2016 11:35 am
@warus,
Why would you want to be back with this liar?

You will have sex again in the future, with some other woman, who will probably be as hot if not hotter than her. So why hang around?
warus
 
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Reply Mon 12 Dec, 2016 11:39 am
@jespah,
I am not hanging around. As i said, i will move on, be with other women etc., I only want to know what to do. I want to ignore her, but on the other hand, she did become an important part of my life, and on the OTHER hand, i do not want to hang around her because she is a liar, although somewhere in the future i would like to **** her
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ehBeth
 
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Reply Mon 12 Dec, 2016 11:50 am
1. Do not talk to her friend about this. A person who can't be trusted to protect her friend's privacy can't be trusted to protect your privacy. Stories back and forth can get into a stupid place very quickly.

2. Focus on your classes/exams/studies, not on your social/sex life.

3. Find some good friends of your own to do interesting things over the holidays. Move on.

4. plain old - move on. You've put too much energy/thought into this irrelevancy.
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ehBeth
 
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Reply Mon 12 Dec, 2016 11:52 am
@warus,
warus wrote:
So currently i am ignoring her. We go to college together and i am always ignoring her even there, like she doesn't exist. 2 days passed and today she sent me a message saying: I miss you Sad, to which i responded: I am doing this for myself, you have played with me for far too long and ended the conversation there.


responding to her messages is not ignoring her

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stop playing the game - you're equally responsible for the games that have developed between the two of you

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Don't tell her you're ignoring her/not talking etc etc - just do it.
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Mon 12 Dec, 2016 11:54 am
You are being led around by your stiffie.

This girl is using you and really, you don't seem to mind.

So don't ask a bunch of people for advice if the only thing you care about is whether or not you get laid.

You really are as bad as she is, you know. Carry on.
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contrex
 
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Reply Mon 12 Dec, 2016 12:35 pm
@warus,
warus wrote:
Of course i only want to **** her after what she did to me. I wanted to be with her. I was always there for her, cared about her, protected her etc. But now? Hell yes i only want to **** her.

You are being really foolish. You think that f***ing her will punish her? It will only punish you. Why are you wasting our time?
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