Mon 22 Aug, 2016 09:18 am
i'm a part-time cashier at a grocery store in a metropolitan area. I interact with hundreds of people almost every day. sometimes several times a day I get asked out or, on occasion, for my number. in the beginning, I lied about my number. I later realized that's a bad idea because many of the customers are regulars who buy their dinner at the store every night.
now I just try to brush off advances.
however, there's this one guy who keeps trying to get me to go for coffee with him. initially, I was very friendly with him, because he's Arab and it's always a joy to talk to someone in Arabic. I wear a cross. my father's greek orthodox, a big minority group in the country i'm originally from. the customer, an older, handsome Tunisian man, noticed and said he was too. i'm not a religious person. I think he thought I was, because he told me he was also greek orthodox. the odds for a Tunisian to be greek orthodox are pretty much non-existent. I don't buy it. anyway, he keeps asking me out for coffee. I always tell him i'm much younger than him. he doesn't want to listen. the thing is, he's always kind.
I want to know if there's something I can do to get him to stop asking and approaching me as he's a regular at the store. I'm sure i'm not the only cashier who has this problem at the store, but I never see anyone else complain to the supervisor.
he doesn't want to listen. the thing is, he's always kind. ...
No. Those two sentences contradict each other. Kind people don't persist when someone tells them no.
ehBeth has a good idea - tell him you don't socialize with customers.
Thank you both for your responses.
is it always unkind for a person to be persistent in pursuing someone they want? not necessarily talking about this situation, but I think a person can be kind and persistent.
Nope, not if you have repeatedly said no. That is harassment.
Besides that, it's sort of slimy.