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Reply Mon 22 Aug, 2016 09:18 am
i'm a part-time cashier at a grocery store in a metropolitan area. I interact with hundreds of people almost every day. sometimes several times a day I get asked out or, on occasion, for my number. in the beginning, I lied about my number. I later realized that's a bad idea because many of the customers are regulars who buy their dinner at the store every night.

now I just try to brush off advances.

however, there's this one guy who keeps trying to get me to go for coffee with him. initially, I was very friendly with him, because he's Arab and it's always a joy to talk to someone in Arabic. I wear a cross. my father's greek orthodox, a big minority group in the country i'm originally from. the customer, an older, handsome Tunisian man, noticed and said he was too. i'm not a religious person. I think he thought I was, because he told me he was also greek orthodox. the odds for a Tunisian to be greek orthodox are pretty much non-existent. I don't buy it. anyway, he keeps asking me out for coffee. I always tell him i'm much younger than him. he doesn't want to listen. the thing is, he's always kind.

I want to know if there's something I can do to get him to stop asking and approaching me as he's a regular at the store. I'm sure i'm not the only cashier who has this problem at the store, but I never see anyone else complain to the supervisor.
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ehBeth
 
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Reply Mon 22 Aug, 2016 09:25 am
@perennialloner,
There's a good chance he's telling the truth.

http://www.al-monitor.com/pulse/culture/2014/06/tunisia-orthodox-patriarch-visit-highlight-diversity.html

http://neoskosmos.com/news/en/the-determined-greeks-of-tunisia

http://www.pravoslavie.ru/english/71530.htm

http://grforafrica.blogspot.in/2016/04/the-ancient-christianity-orthodox.html

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In any case, just tell him that you do not socialize with customers.
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jespah
 
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Reply Mon 22 Aug, 2016 10:37 am
@perennialloner,
perennialloner wrote:

he doesn't want to listen. the thing is, he's always kind. ...


No. Those two sentences contradict each other. Kind people don't persist when someone tells them no.

ehBeth has a good idea - tell him you don't socialize with customers.
perennialloner
 
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Reply Mon 22 Aug, 2016 11:06 am
@jespah,
Thank you both for your responses.

is it always unkind for a person to be persistent in pursuing someone they want? not necessarily talking about this situation, but I think a person can be kind and persistent.
ossobucotemp
 
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Reply Mon 22 Aug, 2016 11:10 am
@perennialloner,
Nope, not if you have repeatedly said no. That is harassment.
Besides that, it's sort of slimy.
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