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Mon 22 Aug, 2016 09:18 am
i'm a part-time cashier at a grocery store in a metropolitan area. I interact with hundreds of people almost every day. sometimes several times a day I get asked out or, on occasion, for my number. in the beginning, I lied about my number. I later realized that's a bad idea because many of the customers are regulars who buy their dinner at the store every night.
now I just try to brush off advances.
however, there's this one guy who keeps trying to get me to go for coffee with him. initially, I was very friendly with him, because he's Arab and it's always a joy to talk to someone in Arabic. I wear a cross. my father's greek orthodox, a big minority group in the country i'm originally from. the customer, an older, handsome Tunisian man, noticed and said he was too. i'm not a religious person. I think he thought I was, because he told me he was also greek orthodox. the odds for a Tunisian to be greek orthodox are pretty much non-existent. I don't buy it. anyway, he keeps asking me out for coffee. I always tell him i'm much younger than him. he doesn't want to listen. the thing is, he's always kind.
I want to know if there's something I can do to get him to stop asking and approaching me as he's a regular at the store. I'm sure i'm not the only cashier who has this problem at the store, but I never see anyone else complain to the supervisor.
@perennialloner,
perennialloner wrote:
he doesn't want to listen. the thing is, he's always kind. ...
No. Those two sentences contradict each other. Kind people don't persist when someone tells them no.
ehBeth has a good idea - tell him you don't socialize with customers.
@jespah,
Thank you both for your responses.
is it always unkind for a person to be persistent in pursuing someone they want? not necessarily talking about this situation, but I think a person can be kind and persistent.
@perennialloner,
Nope, not if you have repeatedly said no. That is harassment.
Besides that, it's sort of slimy.