Roomie with a guy friend

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I have known this guy friend for 2 years now. We graduated from the same program and got hired by the same company. Therefore, we both decided to moved in a two bedrooms apt and be roomies.
Things he would do for/to me: but I'm not sure he's doing this cause he's my friend or he likes me. I'm have a strong feeling that he likes me. But since I have a crush on him, I think my feelings are clouded with imagination of him liking me back. Please help here:
-he calls me his best friend
-he always cook and asked me what to eat
-we always hang out together
-he would flirts with me sometimes- lightly touch my back, hands, and thighs
-he has invited me to go with him to his sister's wedding next month.

However, this weekend, he had a friend, who is a girl, visited him for 2 days and a night. He introduced me to her and that was about it. I went to my room to study for my board. They stayed and talked in their room for a while and went out for a swim. Came back and HAD SEX in his room. Went out again and came back at night to have more sex.

So now I don't know anymore. I know that we are not in a relationship whatsoever. But I feel like he has no respect for me if he likes me (or he doesn't like me and doesn't really care about my feelings).

I'm just so confused and sad now. Knowing that my crush roomie is hooking up with someone when I'm present.

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[+3] - CoastalRat - 07/27/2016He may be your crush, but obviously you are not his. He is your roommate. That is how he sees himself. As a roommate, he can have sleepovers, just as you can.

@Michieh087,

Don't room with people you have crushes on.

I had three separate male roommates (I am a female-type person) way back before I got married. John, John, and Pete. Complicating matters was living with two guys named John at the same time. Smile

They had girlfriends. I had boyfriends. So what? They did their thing and I did mine. Hell, I was friends with John #1 and Pete's girlfriends.

You are making your life hard by living with your crush. You have two choices: stop having a crush or move out. Sorry and I know that's harsh, but you are just going to keep making yourself miserable. You are this guy's roommate. He splits the cable bill with you. That is how he sees you. Period.

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@Michieh087,

He may be your crush, but obviously you are not his. He is your roommate. That is how he sees himself. As a roommate, he can have sleepovers, just as you can.

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