@JoyG,
Quote: I feel like I owe him something.
Don't you feel as though you owe your husband something? Like being honest about how you feel about your marriage.
Than why are you spreading your legs for some other married man? Oh yeah, this...
Quote:he does not provide all that I want and need.
Wanna bet this is simply you trying to justify your affair? Have you ever talked to him? You know, a real conversation about your relationship? No, you haven't. Because if you had and nothing really changed, then you would have separated. But no, it is so much easier to have an affair than to work on a relationship.
Quote:I feel like I owe him something
No, you do not. He is getting what he deserves for screwing you in his office. I wonder what he told his wife about his job loss.
Quote:I've considered approaching his employers but I think that would make things worse for the both of us.
And it likely would do no good. They probably would have fired him even if he had been screwing his wife in the office. Employers tend to frown upon that sort of thing. (Unless you are the president of the US.) Hopefully, someone at his former job feels sorry enough for his wife to give her a call and tell her about the loud noises that got him fired.