Husband's female friend

We train people how to treat us. You have allowed your husband to believe that it crosses no personal boundaries of yours to have this woman calling and texting him at all hours .

You are at a disadvantage because you didn't put your foot down early, so he doesn't think he needs to respect you, and has no problem with hurting your feelings as long as he gets to carry on this outside "friendship". Personally, he sounds like a jerk and maybe not worth keeping.

If you have any self-respect, you need to stand up for yourself and decide what you are willing to live with.

If this man and this marriage is something you really think you need to fight for, you're going to have to either demand he respect your feelings, or accept that he is going to continue to walk all over you.

I agree with snood.

Forget about her. Is your husband taking her calls/texts when you're at dinner/on vacation/in bed? He's the one who's being disrespectufl to you.

What is your relationship with his female friend like? is she part of your mutual social circle? does she spend time with both of you as a couple?

Thanks snood, for your feedback yours words have really hit home. Last night was my breaking point and this evening I gave him the ultimatum. I know my self worth and this is where it stops with the disrespect.

Hello EhBeth,
This lady is someone my husband knew before he met me, I have met her on several occasions but I can honestly say we don't breathing in common. I find her to be very simple so I can't relate to her. I reached my breaking point with my husband last night so my word to him regarding his disrespect were made very clear along with a ultimatum.

In future relationships, I'd suggest that you (and any future partner) make at least a minimal effort to include each other's friends in casual social gatherings. Sometimes that's all it takes for people to be clear about the relationship and the confidence of the partners.