Is it my fault or his?

He sounds like a passive-aggressive jerk.

Forget fault. You sure you want to be with him?

I don't know WHAT you texted him, I'm curious.

His mistake was telling you that your needs come after his game playing, but for some reason, he didn't get it that there was a REAL emergency.

Some guys are not good with supporting a woman at the time of her need. They see it as all drama and don't want to get pulled into it.

Perhaps he was the wrong one to go to at that time.

Now you know what he responds to and at what level you can depend on him for. That's why they say, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus (read the book)

Fault doesn't exist here, just cause and effect.

As an example, I wonder what would have happened if you had called him, rather than texted. Would the outcome have been different to what it is now?

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In any event - how things were handled...

Certainly it would be hurtful if, having done nothing other than not seeing texts, I got yelled at and blamed by a love one - for not seeing the texts...

...just as it would be hurtful, after a major emotional upset, my loved one could not understand, and started attacking me with sarcasm.

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Is there blame there? No. Just personal responsibility for poor handling of things - on both sides.

If, when things go wrong, we take time to step back and ask ourselves 'why is this person that loves me attacking me'....and we take the time to truly try and understand why...usually we can arrive at a conclusion that helps resolve the conflict.

Hope it helps.
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