Answering my own questions...
Quote:How do you determine what to censor? Is it something you do naturally or do you plan age wise when to expose them to what?
I realize I censor much of what is said around my children. I'm something of a news junkie, but have learned to use the internet to get the news first and quietly so it won't affect my children. I also censor "more colorful" phrases, and anything I construe as disrespectful until a later time when I feel children become old enough to question the parameters of respect and form their own opinions about things (which happens sometime in their teen years?) But then, even after they are old enough to question the dominant forces, decide if they respect them/their values or not (including myself as their matriarch) I ask that they refrain from inflecting their more controversial opinions on the younger fry in the household. I don't believe 5 year olds need to wrap their minds around whether it's ok for one man to marry another man or whether sometimes it may be ok to break the laws of the land...
Quote:Are there any subjects that you wouldn't answer? Would/do you give them a "when you are older" answer? Or do you always give an answer?
No, usually, if they are old enough to ask a question, they are old enough to get an answer, although often it is a modified answer. So far, no young child has asked such a precocious question it couldn't be answered simply. I define words when they are asked. I have had little people ask why an older person uses the phrase "f#@$in'," which my little ones
knew was bad. I asked the older person to try to come up with another adjective, and he did: "nasty."
Quote:Do you deal with discussing/explaining natural disasters (Hurricane Charley and the destruction and death toll for example) the same way you would deal with discussing/explaining atrocities caused by humans(wars, terrorist attacks)?
We avoid watching the news, so natural disasters are kept to a minimum. War is talked about more often, since my oldest is a gunner in the army stationed in Afghanistan. It's generally so far removed from the little people's daily lives that they don't ask much about it. We had more questions asked when our bunny died last year than from any large-scale natural disaster, due to me choosing to shelter them.
Quote:Is there a magic age where the discussing of disturbing subjects is OK?
When they bring it up along with a half formed opinion. That seems to happen at around puberty in my household...