it's over

If you liked the "adventure" of it all, work on creating that with your husband given you state he is "wonderful". Don't think that he wouldn't like adventure either, more than likely it's because he hasn't had that for a long time, with you.

It is amazing to me why anyone would want to cheat on a "wonderful" husband. I had one. They are RARE. I would not have looked twice at a GQ model.

You should ditch the wonderful husband and pursue love. Life is short. If you aren't happy with a wonderful husband, why wouldn't you go after what will make you happy?

19 year is plenty enough time for a marriage. Your kids are adults. There is no reason for you to hang on to something that isn't fulfilling you.

Which of you was doing all the sneaking around? You don't make that clear.