What does a person worth generaly in life, how to feel worthy?

People have value to the world from how they treat others, and the art and other good works they put into it.

Here's the thing zemnac, we determine our own worth to the world. As an example: People who work hard, do a good job, and put effort into things have a much greater value to an employer than someone who does the least amount of work possible, does a half arsed job, and doesn't put much effort into anything but being lazy and complaining.

Whatever worth, price tag, or value we put on ourselves is ultimately what determines how others choose to view our worth as well. A lot of it is subconscious though. For example, I automatically recoil inside when someone jumps head first into the deep ocean of negativity. Or even when I do... Lol Why? Because I don't like it. Negativity can pull other people down. Being negative about everything all the time will actually only give back a negative perspective of you from everyone around.



Yeah... I understand. It is easy to feel like just a face in the crowd in such a vast world of people, cultures, and beliefs. There probably is someone who looks just like you. They call that a doppelganger, I do believe. I met mine in my 20's. Holy moly it was one of the weirdest yet coolest experiences of my life! We could have passed for twins in a line up. Same height, body structure, skin tone, hair, eyes, you name it.

It was literally like standing in front of a mirror. Lol Except she was pregnant, which all in all was kinda cool to see because I had always wondered what I would look like pregnant. Oh, and she was Mexican. I am... A mutt... Not really sure, some French definitely, but every Indian I have ever met has swore up and down I have Indian in me. Perhaps I will look into it some day.

Anyway, yes we could have passed for twins, and yes, she could do some of the same things as me because we both worked in the cafeteria at the hospital... Yet... We were distinctly different. Our ethnic backgrounds for one. Our personalities were miles apart. She was very outspoken and liked being the center of attention.

Not me. I kept to myself. Very shy and insecure. So much so that I had actually only applied for the dishwasher position because I preferred being unseen and unheard. But oh no no, the guy who hired me insisted that the dishwasher job was far to hard a work for a pretty girl like me so I should be take the cashier position. His words not mine. Kinda creeped me out to be honest, but he turned out to be one of the best bosses I've had.

She never could have replaced me though. Nor could I have replaced her. We just shared similar external values. She was the way she was because of how her life had been so far, and so was I. Either way we both were unique in our own right. Which is actually a good thing if you ask me. I hate the cookie cutter mentality. I don't want to be like anyone else, and I am the only one who determines what I will be like. And... You are the only one who determines what you will be like.

Oh by the way... Your uniqueness is what makes you irreplaceable.



Yes they do, silly! The only difference in their impact was the choices they made through out their lifetime, and the fact they they were willing to be, and OK with being "different". The ant colony is actually a pretty good analogy here, I am glad you brought it up. It demonstrates a good message I think.

Like you said, there is a Queen ant, and then the rest of the colony, basically viewed as worker ants. At least that's what they call bees... Lol I think you get my point...While their existence may seem mundane, useless, or replaceable, it really isn't. Each ant has a purpose, a job, a contribution to give that aids the greater good of all. You see, the Queen ant couldn't survive without the aid of the worker ants.

The worker ants wouldn't be there, if not for the Queen. The colony could not continue if there weren't replacements. All things working together is what makes it work. I have yet to meet a democratic, Republican, Pentecostal, or Baptist ant. Just to name a few. Whether it's instinctual or not I do not know, but they stick together and do their jobs because that is what they have to do to survive.

The problem is you are taking the term replaceable far too personally. We are all replaceable, in that we just plain won't be here forever. So the job we did... Someone else will have to do. The car we drove... Someone else will have to drive... And so on. But as a person with your own unique set of ideals, your own unique personality, your own unique way of doing things... That is not replaceable. No one could be completely like you... Ever... Even if they tried.

That last answer was very good really Im really confused though ,like thinking of doing something that noone did in order to be special , You are right im taking all this very personally, because if sometime ever have to ask myself if I have worth, even if bad things come my way I believe that I could make it through because then Il have the confidence and noone could disagree with that. Think about it , who will stand against a big name :/

Do you have children? Because if you do, you will understand that there is noone in the billions of people in the world that can replace you. You mentioned that queen ant too? Although shes fawned on, shes special, also her job is the hardest and most stressful of jobs as well, and when she dies, she is only replaced by someone just like her...just an egg producer...not really that special.
Do you feel like a wildabeast in a sea of wildabeasts? I think we all do. Sometimes its frustrating and we want to be heard and appreciated....for something. I have no answers for that. I just wanted you to know, you are not alone.

Let me say tho, the dudes who shot Lennon and Reagan just for fame, that got them nowhere. I dont even remember their names.

Zemnac, I can assure you that you are unique . . . just like everyone else. The best you can do is to be yourself.

You can't base your worth on perceived acceptance or approval of others. You will be disappointed every time. Having a "name" is just that... Having a name. Having a title is just that. Having a title. It doesn't change who you are on the inside, and that's what is most important. Everyone wants to leave a legacy behind when they are gone. A footprint that says, "I was here."

There are very few who leave their footprint by rising to to greatness in the eyes of the majority. But the ones who do are only taking one step further than the average Joe. Its a big step though.... Literally disregarding what anyone in the world thinks or says because the road to greatness is a lonely one. There are far more nay sayers than supporters initially, or even perhaps for the entire duration.

Even the people they loved and trusted the most possibly turned away in doubt for a time. Deemed them as a nut case. Wrote them off as a loss, because they just didn't quite understand yet what that person who rose to greatness did. They had to endure so much more than most even realized they did.

Greatness doesn't just happen...

Those people made greatness happen by enduring and persevering through a season where everything was there, but it wasn't all quite put together yet, and nobody but them understood. Becoming great like that... Will cost you everything. Most people aren't willing to make that sacrifice.

But that doesn't mean you can't leave your footprint. Choose to be the best you that you can be. Be kind to others. Be compassionate, and care about others needs. See your mistakes as an opportunity to learn and grow as a person, rather than a failure. Be honest and trustworthy. A person of integrity who actually does what they say they will. Those are the things people remember and those are the things that they will remember about you when you are gone.

I don't mean to offend, but are you Oriental? I only ask because it seems to me that most Western people don't question the uniqueness and value of the individual, while the Oriental view is different; placing little value on the individual and great value on society as a whole.

Self worth is not necessarily gaged by a person's productivity, monetary value, and personal contribution to society. Self worth can be the joy you bring into other people lives. Do other people find you to be a kindhearted person? Do other people look to you for advice? Do other people enjoy your company and conversation? Self worth can be gaged in so many ways.