33 y/o wife confused

So why not ask your husband what you should do? He should have more of an input into your decision than we should.

ask your husband if sex with another couple is included in ""something""

How did you feel when he stated that? "Sex life" has nothing to do with filling in time, it's about being intimate with your SOH.

I see two issues.

1) Time away and therefore you feel alone for the most part.
2) Non existent sex life.

You certainly should be independent and have hobbies and be your own person, I understand however, hardly ever seeing your Husband would make you feel that you are alone, 1 person not 2.

If I was you? I would "not" go to these two people's place for a 3 some. Doing something on the spur through frustration is not the answer to solving the above issues. You in addition, know nothing about these people what so ever, there is a reason why they started texting and texting and texting their own greed, to score . They could have engaged with 10's of people without protection in addition. They could be into bondage or things that shocks the shirt out of you and you want to run but can't get away, lots of danger signs there, yet, you are seeing a bit of "excitement". So in that, that is what you are missing from your life, speak to him AGAIN tell him perhaps of some fantasies you are having, desires you are having, make a move yourself, on, your, husband.

Many couples are seperated over a longer period because of work.
Merchant sailors are gone for months ,pilots and stewardesses are gone a lot, many others.
The very first thing for a marriage to last under this circumstances is TRUST.
Stay away from these people. Stop any contact right away.
Look around and you will find interesting things to do. Find some people to share things with as a group, it can be art, books, sport there are so many things.
And when you have made your life more interesting you will have a much better sexlife with your husbond and it hopefully will be easier for you to be alone now and then.

Stop whatever connection you have with these people, they would just complicate things more. Just have a heart to heart talk with your husband, may be you both need a time off. A date night maybe to bring back the spark.

As great a line as ehBeth has - I am taking a wild guess but I think he meant for ceramics as something as an interest for you. He works - what do you do? Not that I mean you have to work, but you should have something that is of interest to you as well.

Now as far as the missing out or lacking sex that is a different story - does he know you mean lack of intimacy or just that you are bored? How clear were you with him.

Or use ehBeth's line at least then he will get the jist it isn't just boredom.

I wouldn't do it

I know it is old post but is this for real? You are asking us if you should go to a swingers house to get high and have sex and risk pregnancy or an STD because your husband is working to get a higher paying job to support the family as he is probably thinking it will be for a few years then you all are on easy street.

If you even thought of this for a second you have issues.