Roberta, I wasn't talking about this particular person or incident.
I was born and raised in the NE, in NJ. I lived there until I was about 20. While a child, I can remember so many times where someone was more or less dismissed, or thought of as countrified or they couldn't really know what life was all about, because they didn't live in or around the area.
The old new yorker magazine cover tells it all. This one, from 1976, the year before I graduated high school from high school. Yep, this was how people saw, and apparantly still see NY. Like there's nothing else out there worth knowing about.
Yes, you rush around, you see people doing gross things all the time, you get upset about so many things....and you are so proud of it. It seems especially when you've lived no where else, and have nothing to compare it to.
Edgar, I've visisted NY numerous times since then, and always had a good time. I have childhood friends there, and have meet new people through them.
But, I've also visited other cities, states, wide open spaces, and had just as good, or better times.
Roberta, I'm glad you love your home. I love my home. I wish everyone loved their home.
But, it's just one place. NY seems peculiar in this country in that people seem so proud to say they live someplace with rats, roaches, vomit, high taxes, higher cost of living, tiny apartments and it all seems worth it because there are jazz clubs and museums, multi-story buildings and a big park.
As if other places don't have restaurants, and lots of other stuff to do, and the people don't rush or tell about the person who peed next to them on the way over.
NY just suffers from an inflated ego. There's nothing wrong with living there, if that's where you want to be, but honestly? Really and truly? No one, or hardly anyone, is envious or jealous.
Like has been said. A person considers themselves a native New Yorker when they think anyone, or everyone cares about that fact.
I know I sound negative. I think it just hits me harder because I've been there, and I've been other places, and I can imagine other places that are really great to live in.
I have had people literally think I wear a cowboy hat, or asked me questions like if we painted our doors different colors like they d0, all from the NE, never from other areas.
It kind of boils down to being shown or told something as if it's only available in NY, like an egg cream, a street musician, someone in costume or doing something unusual on the street, as if it's not in existence anywhere else.