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am I bi or is it just a "phase"...does she actually like me?

 
 
Reply Mon 11 Jan, 2016 11:02 pm
Ok, so this is going to be kind of long. I have always thought that I was straight up until about half a year ago. I am 14 right now and last year in 8th was the first time I felt attracted to a girl. I don't really know when it started, but one day I just just got this huge urge to touch her. At first I thought I was going crazy because I had never had those urges before. I thought it would just go away after awhile, but it didn't. I've had plenty of guy crushes before, but with her it feels different. With my guy crushes, it's always felt as if something was missing. However, with her, it feels right. I couldn't stop thinking about her and it just kept on getting worse and worse. At first I was in denial. I told myself that I would never date a girl and convinced myself that I was straight. After awhile, after realizing my feelings aren't going away, I admitted to myself that I was probably bi. I forgot to mention, I just met her last year, but we instantly became friends...sort of. She is also more masculine looking. She's not buff or anything, but she has short hair, wears guyish clothing, and doesn't wear makeup. I don't know if that's why I like her, because she looks like a guy. I know that she isn't a guy and I'm OK with that because I'm still attracted to her. I didn't know if she was bi or not at the time, but I find out from her friend shortly after I had come to terms with my feelings. Her friend told me that she was a lesbian. I was really happy until she told me that my crush isn't allowed to date because her parents are very Christian. Anyways, I told her friend that I had a crush on her. She was supportive. After about two weeks I confessed to her...then I ran away. Her friend later told me she likes me too but she can't date because of her parents. At the time I was ok with it because I didn't have the guts to openly date anyways. That was about two months ago and my feelings have changed, they are stronger now. However, I don't know if she still likes me. We are still friends and we act normal with each other. She hasn't made a move, but neither have I. I don't know if it's because of her parents or if its because she doesn't like me anymore. I don't want to mess up her relationship with her parents, but I also don't want to see her miserable. I really really like her. What should I do??!
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McGentrix
 
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Reply Mon 11 Jan, 2016 11:11 pm
You're 14... go listen to spotify and play video games. This stuff will sort itself out when you are older and more mature.
confusedaf
 
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Reply Mon 11 Jan, 2016 11:27 pm
@McGentrix,
I don't know...maybe...I don't think age really matters here though. BTW I greatly dislike video games since I always lose
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Grayalien
 
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Reply Mon 11 Jan, 2016 11:47 pm
@confusedaf,
First off, if you are feeling attraction to the same gender, then you are most definitely what society considers queer. Don't be ashamed about it, queer people are no different than heterosexuals as human beings. Professionals say individuals will often discover their sexual orientation at a young age, so don't fall for that "you're too young to know" crap. And who cares if you change your mind later on? No one is keeping track.

About your bae, just ask her if she still feels anything towards you. You don't have to confess or anything, just ask her how she feels. If the answer isn't "no" then it is yes.
confusedaf
 
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Reply Mon 11 Jan, 2016 11:48 pm
@confusedaf,
Hey guys thank you for reading and replying, but can somebody PLEASE give me some advice? Thank you. Hugs and kisses!
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confusedaf
 
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Reply Mon 11 Jan, 2016 11:50 pm
@Grayalien,
Thank you. That really made me feel better. I'm going to ask her tomorrow. Wish me luck!
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