@Bigheart2d,
Firstly, welcome to the forum. Sorry to read about this - especially hard around the time of the holidays. I can empathize/sympathize with you. Don't allow yourself to feel stupid or in any way less-than.
Sadly, he's a manipulator and he knows how to push your buttons. He's not too mature based on your accounting of what has happened, so far.
This says it all about his state of mind:
Quote:He's a single father of two and is very sensitive. He has a horrible relationship with his ex wife. He easily gets upset and shuts down and then puts the blame on me or others when he feels hurt.
When he reached out after the break-up, even though your time-frame wasn't immediate (it didn't have to be), it was appropriate. The fact that he rejected it and rejected your reaching out, allows you to see that he was not really sincere. He should be overjoyed that you responded at all.
I feel that he did you a favor. Move on - knowing he is not the right man for you.
Good luck and toss this fish back into the pond.
{Edit: no idea about the 'merchandise' comment. It's off-the-wall.}