Kissing a Girl who has a Boyfriend

She sounds awesomely manipulative. Maybe think about whether you'd be happy if you were her boyfriend and she was pulling this crap on you.

Kissing a Girl who has a Boyfriend

Well, there you go. You are doomed from the beginning.

Why are you letting this girl tease you so?

Thanks, jespah.

Really, why dint I see that coming? I thought everything's been driven by circumstance when I got in the picture.. Before meeting her in person, she'd already dropped hints that she was not happy in their relationship, thus giving myself some motivation to really step in.

To hasten the process, I kind of used some old tricks up my sleeve which led her to fly to my city and find reason to meet me in person.. She was really surprised and amazed to know it was me and not some friend(s) playing pranks on her.

Her work requires her to travel mostly... I saw her itinerary. While she's in the city for a short while, she normally stays at her boyfriend's. From the time she was here and flew back, as our jobs didn't require much of our time, we'd spent most of the time together.

We'd agreed to keep this a secret. I stole kisses though she'd warned me not to, until she got comfortable somehow.

The thing is, and I thought I would just do later, I never got to ask how long she was in the relationship, how the relationship with her boyfriend had been and such now that I was in the picture. All I knew they were not seeing eye to eye on most things.

During a pour-out discussion on our feelings, she said she didn't know how things between us would work out 'cause she had a bf. She's happy with me but we're supposed to be just friends and friends don't kiss.

"You know I'm already committed," she said. "would you want me commit to you too?"
I told her that commitment couldn't be told unto a person. "If you search your feelings and find me there, you weigh it in. And you would know if you want me in your life.. Then commitment follows."

I thought everything was fine even when she flew back. I drove her to the airport both of us in high spirits. She will be coming back in a few days as she will be spending the holidays here and I am supposed to pick her up at the airport and proceed with our discussed holiday plans.

It all happened in 10 days. When I read your comment, I asked myself what did I miss here? Is she really manipulating me? Really? Wow!

To break our communication for a while, I texted her early yesterday giving an excuse to "help a lady friend out who's in trouble". Not heard from her since. I'm kinda skeptic now to see her again.

What's your advice? If she really is playing me.. is there a subtle way to let her learn something out of this?

Thanks, PUNKEY.

Overlooked maybe. I thought I could sweep her away even if she had a boyfriend. I hosted that big office party where I saw her the second time. And I thought I was the one teasing her.. I thought the worst she could be doing is letting me fill in the void in their relationship. To manipulate me is hitting below the belt.

I'll just f*** her when she comes back!

sounds like she's having some fun with you

what void in their relationship? sounds like a good set-up for her. a boyfriend and a guy who flatters her on the side

you're considering pursuing a woman who is in a relationship but apparently doesn't mind messing around a bit on the side - as long as you're ok being a possible fuckbuddy that's fine

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and really - you've been interested in her since 2013 but just got around to communicating with her in 2015. you need to step things up.

Thanks, ehBeth.

Seeing this girl at first in 2013 didn't give much info (name/contact details) and emotional freedom that time. I just broke up with my long-time girlfriend (of 6 years) a few months ago.. That party last Dec 9 was the moment I had the chance to "tease" her.. Well that was the original plan..

Well, I didn't see any signs she would have been playing me since when we talked about love matters she sounded like coming from the heart... to me atleast. Pls read my reply to jespah.

And I thought I was persuasive. If she really is a player, I'll just play along then.. I'm fine being her fuckbuddy as she is an awesome 8!

Actually it depend on the girl cause that is her decision after all. If she wants you to kiss her, then be it.

Thanks, remforever.

Sounds good.. But majority of the reactions here is that she's only playing me.. what are your thoughts?

You seem hell-bent on denying the truth of this... do whatever you want. Maybe she is as emotionally clueless as you are (as most young people are). Have a flirtation with her. Don't have a flirtation. Whatever. It's your life and you are living it. Not us. Maybe she's attractive and you can get some good shags out of the situation which would be a plus. You can remember them when you are an old man. Maybe in 10 years time you'll look back and see it more clearly. Maybe not.

Thanks Tes yeux noirs.
I'll keep your advise in mind. To say, I am my future's past. Thanks very much!