Lori123
 
Reply Thu 29 Oct, 2015 01:09 am
Hi, I'm in a strange situation. I met my boyfriend while in grad school. He turned out to be an alcoholic getting his undergrad degree in his 30s while I was working on my Master's degree in my mid-late 20's. We haven't had the most perfect relationship. He had cheated on me about 1-2 years into our relationship. I've been a little possessive in the past which probably led him to this decision but I was quite distraught by what he did. We eventually got back together and agreed to move on from this situation. From my knowledge he hasn't cheated on me since. After he graduated, he got an internship at an amazing organization that hosts many interesting events. We've been fighting over me not being welcome to these events lately. I've come to about 2 and we've fought after them for various reasons. I should mention he interns in a place where a majority of women intern (him being an only guy in the department). Now, he doesn't want me to come to any of those events even if I'm really interested in them and just want to come to get out of the house. I have no idea if there's something going on with a fellow intern that comes to volunteer for those events with him or what it is. He tells me that he doesn't want to mix his personal life with his work life. But I still want to be a part of it. I told him I will just say hi at an event and go about my business and he seemed fine with that, but he still wants to go to the few upcoming events by himself...I just don't get what the problem is with me coming there except girls being there with whom he interns and whom he likes, possibly. I should also mention that unfortunately I'm currently unemployed. He knows about this since we've been living together for about a year and still, he is against me going to these events. I've explained to him that this may help with my job search as I network but he doesn't seem to believe me, thinking I'm there to spy on him.
 
jespah
 
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Reply Thu 29 Oct, 2015 06:20 am
@Lori123,
Aw, c'mon, you're not going there to network for him, and you know it.

He's a big boy and can network for himself, or face the consequences of not doing so, without you jumping in, to rescue him.
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TheDirectApproach12
 
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Reply Wed 4 Nov, 2015 07:10 am
@Lori123,
It appears you are feeling insecure because of your unemployment and the past cheating. If those two things were not apart of the equation you may not be as interested in attending his work functions. Networking is something you can do in any arena and doing it at his work functions could be uncomfortable for him. If you wanted to attend to support him and he declined that would be different. On the other hand, the reasons he is giving you are bogus, I won't speculate as to the real reason why bc I don't know him but it is clear that he just doesn't want you there. You have one of two choices, leave him or have your own healthy social life where you have an out and are not just sitting at home. Emphasis on healthy.
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