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Madly in love with a man who has intimacy issues- premature ejaculation-how do I approach him

 
 
Reply Sat 24 Oct, 2015 11:43 pm
Hello, I'm madly in love with a man who has intimacy issues. I suspect this is because he suffers from premature ejaculation. He told me in the beginning that he would cum fast as he hasn't had sex in a while and the other day he bought these herbal pills for this 'issue'. But who knows because we have never had sex yet and it's been 3 months. I feel like I make things worse because we do make out and touch but he can't get me to orgasm because, well honestly, fingers don't get me there. I don't know if I should fake it to gain his confidence? I don't know how to approach him in a way that doesn't make him feel less of a man. I don't know what to do...ignore this or talk to him and if so what do I say? This issue is not a deal breaker for me. I would really appreciate anyone's advise from someone who has dealt with this.
 
Tes yeux noirs
 
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Reply Sun 25 Oct, 2015 02:30 am
@katiekatie,
(I am being serious here) You could try jerking him off one or two times before trying to have full sex, or suggest that he tries this himself before you meet for an occasion where sex is planned. You should not shy away from this issue, because in a truly loving relationship all topics can be discussed and this would be a chance for you to show helpfulness and kindness. It takes two for sex to work, and you are one of those two. If this does not make much of a difference you could suggest that he sees a doctor or looks on line for ideas. Make it clear that you love him no matter what and make sure he understands this is not a deal breaker. If fingers don't get you there, do lips and tongue?

Tes yeux noirs
 
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Reply Sun 25 Oct, 2015 04:39 am
Downvoted by an idiot
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jespah
 
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Reply Sun 25 Oct, 2015 06:47 am
@Tes yeux noirs,
Let me add to this - herbal Viagra is unregulated and is what Lamar Odom is fighting for his life about.

This guy should go to a doctor for this issue.

In a truly intimate situation, the subject can be broached. But I do understand if it's kind of at the start of all of it.

I would not fake it. But you can be a bit assertive or at least mention what you'd like.

"Dave (or whatever his name is), I love it when we kiss. And I am really, really attracted to you. Do you want to take it further?" Assuming he says he does, then broach the subject with confidence.
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Sun 25 Oct, 2015 09:25 am
All this is silly talk, since you haven't had sex yet.

It takes time to get comfortable with a partner. It sounds like there's too much pressure. Do heavy petting for a while, then go to the intercourse stage.
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