Dating

If you say that he needs time to think, I'd suggest you'd let him have some. Don't text him and tell him about your feelings in that case. It'll probably do more bad than good.

Listen to his words, not your heart. Remember, absence makes the heart grow fonder.

I have but I just feel like I need to tell him

No you "want" to tell him, through fear that if you don't he may not return to you.

Before he left, did you look into his eyes, laugh, hold him, love him? I would say that you did.

I would say he knows your feelings. Being in the Navy can scare some guys, you know, what is she up to? What if she meets someone else while I am away. Best thing to do is give him what he has asked for when he contacts you, make him smile, laugh and know you are there. As time goes by and he sees you are still there he'll be fine. If, he feels you have been too over the top, too clingy, then that's a different issue as to why he wants to think. If that's the case telling him is the worse thing you can do. Like I said, you know he knows how you feel.

We didn't see each other before he went away as we live a while from each other and this is all fairly new as we met on an online dating site. But we had a conversation that we would progress this into a releationship when he is home, but now while he has been away he says he needs to think.

Then most certainly don't text him, at least if you don't want this budding relationship to blow up in your face. If he needs time to think, give him that. Odds might be if you text him he might feel you don't give him enough space, or are too clingy or something.

How much time have you spent together in person?

No a lot to be honest, but we have spoken on the phone and text a lot and say we want this to work when he is home etc

ok

so leave him alone while he's away

let him think about things

do not text him about your feelings

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move on with your life

if you're available when he comes back and if he's interested, think about it

If this happens a lot, it might explain why he says he needs "time to think".

urges is like neediness [dealbreaker,asking for time is saying he wants space.back off and give him space[Too often I see girls smothering or nagging a guy when he doesn’t do what they want him to. That always results in the guy becoming more withdrawn. After all, why would he want to commit himself more to a girl who’s nagging him already, right at the beginning of a relationship!

So to answer your question, I don’t think this guy is a screwball at all. Like most guys, he’s probably just figuring his situation out and simultaneously figuring out if a relationship with you is really what he’s looking for. I think he’s a normal guy and I think you are NOT handling the situation well.When it comes to people, it doesn’t matter what you think people should respond to – it only matters what they actually do respond to. If you like this guy, go with what seems to be working best with him – give him space and let him put the effort in. Less work for you, too.

Hope that helps.
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