Kristie, good question. I don't know where I would "prefer" it to be located. It IS a matter of personal philosophy. I just think of philosophy in terms of impersonal abstract issues. How naive of me. Whatever side we take in an abstract issue, our "choice" is a reflection of our personal inclinations. Everything is personal.
A friend of mine the other day asked me to resolve a dissonance. I insisted earlier to him that I never "cheat" on either a wife or a "girlfriend", that I divorce or break up before having an affair. That is true. But he has noticed that I am a chronic flirt. This is a quality I share with my father. We both seem to pay undue attention to women we find attractive--and that includes a lot of women. Yet we never "move on them." They have to literally seduce us. And we do not respond if we are involved with a woman. I told him that I flirt without even being aware of it. Fortunately, my wife doesn't mind (she just thinks it is a courtesy to her never to do so in her presence. I agree). My friend asked me what would I do if a woman were to misinterpret my attentions and come on to me. I answered that I would probably have a panic attack. That I consider it an erotic episode when a woman doesn't slap me for a compliment. What a wimp I've become.
And my ex would ask if we could go every month. She apparently did not consider it cheating.
