Update: One dumped the other next!

You don't need to start a new thread for each change in what is going on with your romances.

It looks less crazy that way :-)

How about going "single" for a while and not get your identification or excitement from men?

Did you ever consider that it is YOU who finds these damaged guys and then spends a lot of time in conflict because of it.

Take some time off and mature.

Ok well I did not know that!

Single? I've been living single in my head for the past 23 years in an abusive marriage. I think I've been single in an emotional sense for long enough! I know who I am and have learned and become stronger from this nightmare. Why unavailable me find me? That's something I'm trying to figure out with my counselor. I certainly don't put it out there so to speak. Especially the most recent of the two. As mentioned I meet him by mistake. And we hit it off. Of course he's al tied up in a mess sorta like me. However, I can't do affairs. My self worth is higher than that!