Fri 11 Sep, 2015 12:48 pm
OK. I am a married man and have been having an affair with a married woman for several months. We both have feelings for each other but, since my marriage is pretty much over, I can leave at anytime. My married girlfriend has three kids and is in a loveless marriage and her husband is a DICK 95% of the time (I have witnessed this).
Sometimes, I think he is actually mentally challenged, if she were my wife, I would have caught on and caught her long ago. He seems to be oblivious. So, I basically want him to become suspicious enough to check his cell phone account, have her followed, check out her alibi and discover she was lying, etc. Basically, I want her to get caught. This guy is not about to want to work things out with her so, the possibility of being with her in a future together would be real.
How do I go about making this guy suspicious that his wife is cheating on him? Without it leading back to me and ruining our relationship?
Why not ask your wife? I'm sure she's got all sorts of helpful ideas.
But even with the sweet comment - I must ask the obvious question - why doesn't this affair woman tell her husband? Unless she actually wants to stay with the 95% Dick.
And the other obvious question - if you can leave your marriage at any time - why haven't you?
Your plan could get be killed if he's really that big of a dick.
You are on the precipice of screwing yourself three ways from Sunday.
If the woman doesn't love you enough to make the decision to be with you, you're likely signing up for a huge disappointment.
The odds are new gf will find out you screwed her over one day - so THAT will be something interesting for you to always be waiting for a la Poe's The Tell-Tale Heart.
In the short term, intelligent as you strike me with this brilliant plan, I suspect she will be suspicious of however you tip 95% dick off, and you will feel her wrath in several ways - one of which will be from gf through wifey's sudden hankering for every got damn cent you have.
In other words, stfu and stop being an idiot. Enjoy the ride with gf OR better yet, take another look at your wife and try to reignite a love affair with her.
Or just tell her you want a divorce. Just stop cheating on her one way or another.
Sir Walter Scott, 1st Baronet,
" Oh! what a tangled web we weave When first we practise to deceive!"
Well, it sounds as if you are completely devoted to being a duplicitous, dishonest cheat, I'm sure you have already conjured up some slimy scheme to advance your temporary interests in a completely dishonest fashion. You sound like a hump.
Finally, we all agree.
I might take this as a put-on.
her husband is a DICK 95% of the time
Well, Mr. Plotter, you comfortably exceed that figure by around 5%, and I would add an alternative label: you are what the Americans call a "piece of work".
I think we know who the real dick is here. And so far we're being pretty nice about it. Most of us are too polite to write what we really think about you.
People stay in bad marriages for: the kids, money, sex.
Also, because it takes too much energy to end things.
WHY do you want her to be caught? Did it ever occur to you that he DOES know and chooses to ignore it - because she always comes back?
Not helpful but, judgmental.
@Tes yeux noirs,
Comment not helpful but, very judgmental.
I answered your question. I suggested you speak to someone close to the experience. Ask your pastor. Ask Dick Cheney. I dunno.
well then don't post - if you don't want any feedback especially honest feedback.
when you start asking people how you can destroy someone else's marriage without getting caught, you are not only a dick, you are completely unprincipled. You're damn right you're going to get judgmental when you come around looking for help in a dishonest endeavor. This might come as a shock, but not everyone operates like you do. You really don't need any help on becoming a bigger jerk. The mere fact you respond "comment not helpful, very judgmental" shows how clueless you are. We are way past the point of just saying you're not a gentleman, the title of your question paints you as an immature, untrustworthy, self-absorbed, selfish and cowardly man.
have you ever thought what would the guy think or would do if she is caught. will she be safe. will the children be safe. you have to think about these. if you think he's not capable of these then i won't argue with what you have in plan.