Does this guy like me?

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This might be a pitiful topic, but I'm asking anyway.
I've been spending quite a lot of time with this guy, reason being that he is the son of my mother's friend whom we see a lot. So, lately he's been doing these silly things that has made me start to think that he's possibly attracted to me, for example; he likes to kick my arse (literally) and pinches it with whatever he can get his hands on, he pokes me a lot and tries to "shove" me, and he teases me alot about my height and other things. It's all things that you'd expect from a primary school boy. He has alot of sisters and female cousins, so he might just be treating me like a little sister, I'm not sure. He is twenty-one and has a good mind for business and is also very straightforward. I'm sixteen. One of the main reasons I thought about was that a guy his age wouldn't think of being attracted to a girl who is five years younger. I'm only asking this because these are small signs that could mean anything, and I want to know if other people would also feel the same thing if they were in my shoes.

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[+3] - Ragman - 08/13/2015Run away! This is a person whose growth was arrested. Sorry, this one is not a keeper. At age 21, he should know better. Also, if they were interested, he would be pursuing ladies his own...

@AngiTheBanshee ,

Run away!
This is a person whose growth was arrested. Sorry, this one is not a keeper.

At age 21, he should know better. Also, if they were interested, he would be pursuing ladies his own age.

Also, you're a minor and he's not....which is not a good match combination, generally speaking.

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@Ragman,

I would, if he and his father weren't moving in with my mom and I. But I might just be over thinking. (:

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@AngiTheBanshee ,

What? He and his father are moving into your house?
Make sure to lock your door at night, this guy is a creeper.

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@CalamityJane,

Could I perhaps ask why you think so?

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@AngiTheBanshee ,

AngiTheBanshee wrote:

So, lately he's been doing these silly things that has made me start to think that he's possibly attracted to me, for example; he likes to kick my arse (literally) and pinches it with whatever he can get his hands on, he pokes me a lot and tries to "shove" me, and he teases me alot about my height and other things.

I'm curious which of these things suggest "interest" to you.

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@ehBeth,

Asks along with ehBeth.

He is a user/creep, is not interested in you as a person. You like the attention from this scumball? back off, for your own good.

Are you interested in you as a person?

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@AngiTheBanshee ,

His behavior is more suited to a boy of maybe eight years of age.

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@ossobuco,

I'm not sure why you think he's a user, creep, or a scumball. He doesn't do this all the time, 24/7 when I'm in the room. Just randomly sometimes. He's a good person and friend, and that's all I see him as. For all I know he just likes to entertain himself by teasing me.

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@AngiTheBanshee ,

If you aren't willing to take the advice of others, why ask the question?

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@AngiTheBanshee ,

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It's all things that you'd expect from a primary school boy.

Exactly. So why would you have any interest in him?

Have you asked him why he does these things to you? You know, talk to him. Tell him this stuff seems childish and you are not a child. See what he says.

As for the age difference, he needs to be careful. You are a minor. And your mom might not be too pleased with him if something happens between the two of you. I'm guessing your mom and his dad are seeing each other, thus the reason for them moving in with you. I think that between the age difference and the fact that his dad and your mom have a relationship going would be enough for you to not want anything between you and him. After all, that could get messy down the road.

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@Ragman,

Who said I'm not willing? I just don't see any reason to call him what he's been called so far. And the "advice" doesn't make sense to me. He isn't some sort of pedophile like most of you people make him out to be.

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@AngiTheBanshee ,

I saw no one here say anything about him being a pedophile. That's quite an over-reaction. He's shown immature behavior by your own admission. You're taking offense to people's advice which you requested.

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@AngiTheBanshee ,

As you have noted, he appears to behave like a child around you. That doesn't sound much like sexual attraction/interest.

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@CoastalRat,

I don't have interest in him in that sense. Like I said, he's a good friend.

I might sound like I don't want to swallow my pride, but I don't want to look like an idiot if I ask him about his behavior.. Maybe he thinks nothing of it and I'm left looking stupid for taking what he does too personally.

And no, his father and my mother are not in a relationship, he is just a very good and old friend of my mother and they have run into a few issues at the place they live in now, so my mother offered to help. I wouldn't want anything between us to expand beyond friendship, you're right when you say that it could get messy.

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@AngiTheBanshee ,

Have you ever told him to stop poking/kicking you?

It would probably be a good idea.

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