Hi Heartbreakerqt
Heartbreakerqt wrote:And I am sure this is another one of his lies, but since I don't have a "job" that I can't support my son and he will more than likely get him because he has a high paying management position and can support him better than I. I have believed everything he has told me in the past, and it has scared me into not taking action and going through with filing for custody and support. Is this true. I am terrified that he will have my son.
Yes, Heartbreakerqt. This is another one of his lies to manipulate you with fear.
When a court makes a custody determination, one of the most important factors is continuity and stability. The baby is with you. The baby has lived his entire life to this point--14 months--in your care. You have provided the child with continuity and stability. Your parental record is solid.
Your ex-boyfriend has NEVER provided your child with stability. Your ex-boyfriend only created instability in the child's life. The only constant and continuous thing your ex-boyfriend is capable of providing for you and your child is physical and emotional abuse.
Your ex-boyfriend might make more money than you, but he does not support his child. You are supporting the child on your meager earnings from your babysitting job plus whatever help you can obtain from your parents.
Your ex-boyfriend has a duty to support his child even if there is no court order requiring him to support the child. He has failed to comply with his parental duty of support. Instead, he threatens you. He tells you, because he makes more money, the court will award custody to him. He keeps you in fear so that you won't take the steps necessary to force him to comply with his duty of support.
When the court is informed that your ex-boyfriend has a high-paying job, is more than capable of providing support for his child, but never did support his child and threatened you instead--the court will easily determine that your ex-boyfriend cares nothing about the best interests of the child.
You are the only one with a proven record of supporting the child and caring for the child's best interests--including removing the child from an abusive home where the child's father perpetrated violence upon you.
When you gave the ex-boyfriend, the child's father, an opportunity to spend time with the child in celebration of Father's Day--what happened? He mistreated you and subjected you to more physical abuse. Although you took the abuse in the past, you are stronger now and you weren't going to take it anymore and you tried to call for help. Then his mother subjected you to abuse--and the child was in your arms at the time.
Girl--it doesn't matter how much money he has--you are holding all the cards. Every factor that a court examines to determine the child's best interests is weighed in your favor. Given this man's history of physical and emotional abuse, the best he can hope for is supervised visitation.
Get a family law lawyer and file for child custody and support NOW!