@elise webber 455,
elise webber 455 wrote:
I agree that is a long time but counseling wont work or staying away from her it will make it worse i will have to just tell her and if she doesn't like me back i will stop having a crush on her.I have feeling because i feel so comfortable when she cuddles me (no one else cuddles me apart from my step sister but she always rough and the girl i like is so relaxed and warm)And i also felt a connection i have never felt with anyone so i have lots of trouble looking away when we stare into each others eyes.And if she likes me we can be cuddle buddies (which we kind of are already)or if she doesn't i will tell her that she needs to stop cuddling me(i will probably never talk to her again if she doesn't like the rest of the other girls i liked).
I'm going to stop beating around the bush and I am going to come out and say things that I know you do not want to hear.
You have no idea whatsoever whether counseling will work, or staying away, etc. You are not a professional and probably even have little experience with managing your own emotions.
Telling her is not going to get you what you are looking for. This is a child
we are talking about. She has no idea what her romantic feelings are toward anyone. In order to give you some perspective, she was likely still in diapers about five years ago, and learned her ABCs maybe three years ago.
I repeat: this is a child
This is not about your desire to have a cuddle buddy. Surely you can cuddle with someone considerably closer in age to you. This child will probably not understand the implications of saying yes to you, or her ability and option to say no to you, or what a romantic relationship even is, or where her head is at in terms of her own sexuality.
I am going to spell it out to you and I guarantee you're going to think that I am mean, but better that you hear it from us, now.
If you act on this attraction, and you are caught, you are setting yourself up for being labeled as a sex offender. I am not kidding. That is a label that will stay with you for your entire life. It will affect your choice of jobs, mates, and places to live.
Don't say you won't get caught. You don't know that. You don't know what this girl will say or drop hints about. You do not know.
I urge you, again, to talk to your parents or a trusted adult (say, a teacher, or a member of the clergy, or your pediatrician) about how you are feeling.
DO NOT DRAG THIS CHILD INTO IT. THERE ARE VIRTUALLY NO UPSIDES AND THE DOWNSIDES ARE REALLY, REALLY BAD ONES.
Are you listening?